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I see a lot of red flags here. Drugs, the bad friends, the fights when he drinks. When I was 20 I married a man I dated for a year. He had a lot of the same red flags you are seeing now. He never did improve, even though we got married. In fact he got worse. He started to get physically abusive in small ways. He didn't beat me up but he would kick, hit and smash holes in the wall. One time he started to hit me outside the house while I defended myself by planting my finger nails in his leg and the neighbor called the police. That was my wake up call. I left him and filed for divorce. I figured the violence would only increase if I stayed and that would be dangerous. You deserve better than this and you can find a good man. Right now is when enough is enough. Good luck.

I do the best I can to do the right things around the house but sometimes I forget things. I also do some household things diffently than my husband would do. Sometimes I miss a spot when I do dishes or something On forgetting: I might do a household chore and forget to put the paper towels away. I might take off my muddy shoes on the patio and forget to clean them for a few days. (out of sight out of mind) On doing different: I clean the kitchen when the meal is over. He cleans it up, with the exception of the dishes while he cooks. I figure if it gets cleaned in the end, what's the difference. I am not a real sloppy cooker. If something is spilled or falls on the floor, I clean it up. I just don't put the oil or something away right away He does all the laundry because he never liked how I did it. Even though I have done my own laundry for years without a problem, before I knew him. On missing a spot: I, like most people sometimes miss something while doing dishes by hand (we don't have a dishwasher yet). So he takes over the dishes so it can be "done right." He actually said he thinks I do dishes in cold water with no soap. He calls me sloppy and complains that he has to do all the house work. (laundry, bathroom and dishes) I do plenty of other things he hasn't taken over. But he disregards all that. I have gone in and "begged" to be allowed to do the dishes again. Once he stepped aside. I don't want to have an argument every time I forget or miss something. I wish he would be more forgiving. I try to do my best but I can't be perfect. Any ideas?