So_confused

I agree with about 50-60% of what the article says. It is possible to be a nice guy without being so insecure and needy. It's called morals.

As a guy who's in almost the exact same situation as your man right now I think he would understand that you need time to yourself. So he thinks highly of you? Why wouldn't he? He's going to think the world of you as you're the girl he wants to be with. Nothing wrong with that. If you are scared to lose him then tell him what he means to you and show him too, don't run away or else he's going to think that you don't want him anymore and then he's going to be left more confused than you. The best advice I could give is to be open, honest and communicate. Never be afraid to lose something, you will be scared to make new memories and won't enjoy your time together, cherish it while it's still here. Remember that as sad as you might get he'll be there for you to try and put a smile on your face

I've been going out with this girl for quite a while now and we used to spend quite a bit of time together and both were extremely happy. She's a busy girl and I understand that fully but she used to make time and effort to see me and now I haven't even done anything with her for weeks. Communication just hasn't been happening and I know that we need that. I've never been so hurt by anyone who cares so much about me. If we have plans she breaks them, if she has time to see me she fills it. She says that I was smothering her, so I gave her all the space she needed. So with everything that happened I just couldn't take it anymore and I packed up everything that she's given me and I dropped it off at her house with a letter saying I can't do this anymore, I can't put in so much effort to not see any in return. She called me really choked that I would give back gifts that she gave me and that they must have not meant anything. Thats the farthest from the truth. I gave them back because I couldn't look at them anymore without feeling pain of something that was once so good and I didn't want to be reminded of what I lost. I still love her with all my heart and I think that she still loves me but I can't be hurt anymore. I know now that by returning her things she was hurt and I've tried to make her understand why I did it but she doesn't seem to understand. I don't want to lose her but I've tried everything and nothing seems to be good enough. I'm just a man and I can't seem to make this work. What am I supposed to do?