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From what you have described upthere, I would say she's kinda ungrown up. All the things she did and said to you are obviously showing her immaturality, so like she said she wanted an open relationship, maybe she just has the intention to try something new instead of settling anything down with you as being still this early age.

If you are sure you could handle all her juvenil behaviours and crazy thoughts and decisions, it is not a bad idea to still pursuing her and let her know that you are the one.

written for who?

Like I say, life burden is always there to take. But case like you, AzurePhoenix,apart from work, having kids and own family is pretty happy in my concern. Or if you think it's even worse than being 30 something but still single like many ppl in my company especially woman. however, I'm not approach that age, but I could tell from their images, if want to make a successful professional career, the opportunity of knowing well of ppl from different sector is tiny, the time of going on a date is limited, the time of spending with b/f is constraint.

Kinda hard though..dont even have a chance to get crush of new guys outside of work, cant be true.

I would like to have anyone working in professional accounting firm to share their feelings. we all know we dont have much extra time after working OT all the time, but still we have own stuff to deal with like family.

Somehow under huge pressure, we still have to perfom extremely well and exceed expectation...

I wish we could share a little bit ideas or feelings here..

always having something occupying your time is pretty much a way to less the pain. but I do feel it's just going away for a period time when u'r on job or something. when u'r back staying alone, the thing comes up immediately. So what I would suggest as I am doing so is spend time to be with people or friends somehow to talk about the painful thing u'r going through. In a way, you dont think you're delivering your pain to another people but controversly you're getting helped by sharing your story another than tearing inside the heart alone... things happened is happened, we can't do anything about it or take time back. If that could any way to remove the pain by doing anything, then go on for it instead of being sad all the time but ignoring the opportunity which would turn matters out in a better way.

sad things help us grow. Dont always focus on the past, looking forward, there is much more things going on in the world and our life... Life is too short. We really dont have too much time for these things. Y not just be happy ever after.

I know it sounds easy but really hard in to be practical. I'm still trying too..

I posted my story early this year in long-distance relationship if anyone has read it. I have an ocean-apart boyfriend suffering from blood cancer.

Since the day he got into hospital for treatment, I was regularly getting to know his situation from his friend and this time things went very serious..But from half a month ago, I haven't heard any news of my never-met boyfriend. Till 3 days ago, I accidently forgot my cell at home for a whole day, I found out 22 miss calls when I got back. From the showing number, I knew those were from his place and I had the intuition he was probably at the edge as he said at the day leaving for hospital, he would give me a call before he go. After dailing every number I could dail in vain, I burst into crying.

I dont know how to express my feeling at the moment...cuz I feel my heart tearing inside, my mind stopping running, my face being numb. I feel so alone and helpless. I cannot fly over to be with him. I lost ways to contact anyone there. I dont know what has really happened to him. I dont know who I could turn to.

What am I gonna do?

Maybe somtimes when a decision has to be made, think less about ME&I

there is always compromise we have to make for life.. life is sometimes so hard and even harder when you have too many choices ahead without knowing which one is more precious and leading the life...

As is for me, chances are first job training program starts at July, summer camp at July too(probably would be a chance to see my Bf if you ever read my post before), going to another country to do further degree which I hv been given offer for.. all the timings are overlapped, meanwhile those are the things I have dreamed for long but pops up all around the same time...

career??--relationship??--education???(add one to the title)

triangle balancing?? Got no clue....

ask her out sometime to hv a coffee or anything and try to start talking about real stuff... dont go too straight in my opinion that would scare her step back before anything happened.. then everything would be too vain..maybe bringing both memoris back to old days and trigger kinda telergy occasionally will work out in a way..

It seems the same thing happened to me... Even though I know I'm gonna living alone cuz' of work.. Dont know how to get rid of the scare now.. leaping to another totally boring life i guess

It seems pretty hard for her to get back to u since she may hv sort of judgement on u dased on what u hv done.. If there is no sight for forget, there will be hard to be forgiven.. Anyhow, If she's very much in love with u, as long as u keep showing her ur heart and willing, U will earn her heart back soon... Just accouting the days..

I think this is the prob every freshman has to face, the only difference here is just it's bit harder for u but much easier for those who can adjust themselves to the new environment quickly..

The way u wanna excape from ur flat mate ur uni. is not a wisdom at all..I saw u were trying to fit in but sort of failed, maybe u just didnt choose the right way to get involved and work all things out.. sometimes u need to rethink it from another prospects.. if u quit now, u'll see things similar like this happening again in ur near future which would be much worse than current..

Life is not always easy..Going through difficulties makes us grow.

Me again.. after posting that tough one few days ago..

How to handle this lonely valentine while all ur friends r going out spending a fantastic day with their bf/gf?

How to keep normal and impassive seeing roommate's bringing in bunches of flowers in ur sight and u still hv to say nice stuff to her for response?

How to get ur bf/gf hv mutual feelings that u'r with him/her and still enjoy the day as other couples actually be together?

appreciate any ideas..

totally agree with what the above said... since she burst into crying on the fone with u, cannot say she sees u like soulmate but at least a partner who could talk to and open her mind to... as long as u'r there with her, there is always a chance for u to sneak in during her fragile period...

Good luck... you're like the sunshine casting in her life..

What is wrong with u ppl at ur stage? Thing always comes "me first" to those ppl who truly has nothing much to worry about but always feel like suicide... r u a craven or something? As my b/f is suffering from uncurable cancer and we are still hving the faith and taking steps to our future, I realise the past few years how stupid I am while I was hving sort of this downward spirit... We dont know what life will give us for god sake, but only if we hv the believe and work on it, there is always a saying " there is a will, there is a way"

as long as ur hearts connect, never mind the lookings..u deserve everything.

I should say whatever romantic stuff u can think about, go for it..

there is nothing better but being able to hold love...

IF I could go, I'would hv done it long time ago.. Besides, what i could do after meeting up him...PS.. this is oceans far away.

I started my long distance relationship more clearly should say cyber relationship 3 years ago which is oceanly apart.. It's been sooo perfect and I have never felt so much in love and have never given a person this much love to anybody else in my life. Till few days ago I was told he is suffering from uncurable cancer, my mind collapse.

All these days, i feel like crying. I dont know what to do. aloneness and hopelessness is always around me. It's like all the dreams we have made before to be to together will be shattered. But only one thing I cannot be more sure than ever that I really love him alot and the absense of him even for a min is killing me. Even though maybe I would never meet him, as long as he's there, everything is working out with me, but....

I dont know what i'm going to do for my life now. As he said, dont waste ur best time on me, U deserve better.. this can only make my motion down to the seabed and I dont think I could do this love ever again to anybody other than him..

IS this the destiny?? How could it be a happy ending?

I am telling u my believe is that once U met the person who's made for u for ur whole life, that will be the day ur shyness ends. No one can tell how long it could be, but these is a day in any case...hv faith, and keep doing what u'r doing rite now.. see what live will give u..

in my view, this guy might hv feelings in u regardless of who u r..whether he knows u or not does not matter here..something could happen very naturaly from the library...

i think this situation everyone has been through.. depending on ur mood, the place of meeting up, whether u'r making long fone call conversation..under each circumstance, the means r different..but really it;s hard.....

Most important to me is that I hope she knows that everyday of life is full of love and hope. That success is not measured in dollar signs, automobiles, or a stock portfolio. Love is measured in happiness, experience, and love of life itself.

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this is the only thing i appreciate it here..... i;m not so feministic but gotto say this is the very selfish side for man!

I do believe guys who r younger than our age r kinda afraid of dating expirenced charming gals like u as the thing u described above..as far as i'm concerned u could the one taking the first step to bring him into it and let him realise u'r really the one with him and there for him, but dont act too tactful cuz it would make him freak out in a way...Just waiting to see how things go is not making any better..

r those canadian guys saying the same thing to attract ladies all over--u'r my first girlfriend..i've never dated anyone or loved anyone---sigh? same here..dark