LorenaLee

Wow thanks for that! It is nice to see that other people go through similar feelings! Thank you!

You need commitment, an open line of communication, trust, and lots of understanding of eachother!!

Cons- You get sad easily, resort to the past at times, more miscommunication

The greatest thing though is that you cherish your time together more when you have it!

Well I have been dating a guy for about 5 years and we have been pretty serious and have had many ups and downs. We seemed to have made it through some rough break ups and very hurtful actions that we have both made. Things have been alright for a while now until comments started popping up with him towards the other sex. Things that I have never heard. Well what topped it off was the other day my best-friend was over and when she walked in she had a Hooters shirt on and he made a remark to her saying "Sweet you work for Hooters now!"

I was shocked and I ran downstairs and went ot my room to cry. On the way down I hear him say while him and my best friend are upstairs "don't go cry now baby."

So than I started thinking about how over the past few months I have noticed a dramatic change in his personality he has started to be that type of guy that looks at girls as an object and starts looking at me like a different person. So I try to confront him on why I believe he is doing this. So I asked him first- "Is this the way you have always been and are now just coming out with it?" He said no. Then I asked about his work. I said, "Does it have something to do with you working with all guys and it is rubbing off on you?" The answer was yes that is prob most of it. So what should I do.

I am not attracted to that pig type of guy. He never used to be like that, but I know he is now. I would much rather be with someone that loves me as much as I do them. It has even affected our sex life. I don't feel like his "only girl" anymore. I am just a piece of meat. He always wants to do me in the butt too and I sure as hell don't think that is love. As hard as it may be I have seen him change and I don't think it will go back to the way it used to. SO what advice is out there. I am willing to open my mind up but at this point I am leaning towards finding someone new.

He has also kidded around with me about liking lesbians and stuff I just don't like those things and I am a very discreet girl so that stuff doesn't cross my mind. Then to top it all off when I try to talk to him about it he says shut up and "I'm gonna flip out if you keep trying to talk." He hasn't even apologized about what he said to my friend. She even told me it made her feel very awkward.

So the bottom line is that he isn't the guy I fell in love with. What is going on here!

well i dont know how much cause i cant track his every move i just know that when people talk bad about me he doesnt care...it is hard to explain it is like i feel in my gut that he is doing things behind my back and i dont know about it. He is the type of person with no concence... can trust be built back? these feelings i have are making me stressed OUT!

I need to add a quick note to that too! I have caught him lying to me and he says "hes not lying to me he just doesnt tell me." ?!

Isn't that lying? If he lies to me that shows he doesn't respect me right?

Alpha Omega is very right. Lying is the worst thing that he can possibly do it ruins EVERYTHING. Well sit him down and try and figure it out and if not then I would say get out! I know that is easier said than done though!

I am having some problems with my bf. I cannot trust him and he does nothing to make it better. Is there any way that I can build back trust for him? He has broke my trust more than a few times and I am finding it VERY hard to get through. I dont know what I should do. Should I just give up and find someone that I can trust or keep trying?

Im happy for you that you are getting all this attention. My reaction was just that you were seeking revenge because that would probably hurt your ex the most if she still likes you. Maybe they are right and you do deserve better

You need to talk to her about it. Plain and simple she needs to know so she doesnt react differently if she doesnt. Dont worry it will not be a big deal I dont think. Good Luck

i would say just talk to her be her friend!

Well this kinda sucks to say but when my boyfriend and I were broken up once for a few day I cheated on him. Yes I was VERY much in love with him too....just being stupid I guess....just keep a open honest relationship that should help!

well follow your heart! tell her how you feel maybe! good luck!

sound like she likes you!! go for it

keep in touch!! if it is meant to be it will be!!! good luck! and tell him how your feeling!!

yeah your right he prob doesnt really caer though.... after 4 years i would hope so but it is hard to believe sometimes...well thanks for your reply

This happened to me and unfortunately it split both of my realtionships with them in two. In the end though when they broke up we regained what we had. It is hard because you spill your feelings to both of them so be careful what you say for they could be talking about it behind your back

Agh I dont know what to do! My bf is 21 and he has been talking to this 14 year old girl over the internet!!! agh that is sick I know but he says that nothing will ever go on and I understand that BUT she totally has a crush on him and he doesn't see it. Well she has talked very badly behind my back to him and he hasnt stuck up for me at all. Also she came to rollerblade with him because she wants HIM to teach her how to rollerblade and when I showed up she JETTED and he was sad about it and mad at me for it. Then he tried to go talk to her and she ignored him as if she was pissed at him. I know that he doesnt tell me the WHOLE truth about the situation and when I ask he just YELLS at me and gets extremely irritated. Please help I dont know what to do it is really bothering me!!!

well you stated "it feels great" what is that supposed to mean? why would you care if they liked you or not?

are you just TRYING to get revenge on your ex? sounds kinda mean....

sounds like you have some inner anger towards women...men do stupid things too...I agree about the bad boy thing...but we usually learn....If you keep being good to women a great one will come along that likes you for you I am happy you got your anger out because I have read some of your posts and it is always about you not liking women or whatever and I was gonna reply to that. We think men are nuts tooo you know!! Well nice talking to ya

I understand this one. Well I think that you should do something at least once a week that gets you out. It is so nice to have a few friends that will be there physically for you too to give you a hug or something if you need it. Do what makes YOU happy nobody else.

About thinking your beautiful one day and not the next....that happens everone has those days. Everyone is beautiful in their own way...nobody is just like you and that is true beauty...so cherish what you have and look in the mirroe and remind yourself that

hmm does he know how you feel? Just tell him and if it doesn't work who knows you could be like BEST FRIENDS!! It sucks when that happens you want to stick up for yourself but also tell him what you really feel...good luck!

Well the spelling thing is kind of annoying trying to read it...but anyways you just need to look her in the eyes and slowly move in and like mel said maybe i little lip licking...then see her response if she moves in go for it...if she pulls back just pull back too....nothing to big yet just kiss first Could scare her

Good points. Well if you do become friends again make sure that she and you are both ready you know? People that date do it for a reason because something is there inside. I wouldnt doubt that you will both feel something again...Just be sure that you both know that you will only be friends

Sounds stupid but I would say actually being rejected might get you over that. You will realize that it isnt the worst thing in the world and you will live through it. Also maybe practice speaking aloud things that you would want to say to others that you wouldnt because you are nervous. Just count to three and say it.. If people dont like you because of that then that is fine...you dont need friends like that anyways