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I'm with swingfox too. It's a big turn on for me, but unfortunately she thinks it's a sin (masturbation), even though it's me touching her and not her doing it herself. I dream about the day I can do it, it would be a big turn on to me!

Well, lingerie is always a turn on for me. Maybe dance and strip for him. My wife won't even think about oral sex, but giving and receiving is a big turn on for me too. Also let him touch you... one of my fantasies is to bring my wife to orgasm by touching her... she's not into that though. Sorry, all I can tell you are my turn ons. And whip cream can be fun.

Yeah, I agree with you completely. That was one mistake before we got married was talking about sex... but on the same hand we were both virgins and I'm not sure I would have know what my values were at the time. You are right, in my church there is nothing written about what is ok after marraige, just lots of stuff for the before marraige stuff. I guess what it comes down to, is that some things I think are ok to do, she thinks is a sin and just refuses to do it, won't even try it and see if she likes it. I think it is more of how you feel and are comfortable with, because we both prayed about it (seems weird to pray about sex stuff), and we both felt that what we separately believe is right. So, that's my frustration. We both have different views on what is ok and what is a sin in sex. And of coarse I'm not going to force my wife to do anything. It just seems like there's no solution, except for my church to go out and say what is ok and what is sin. True, even then she still might not want to try anything, but that is the reason why she refuses to try things. Spygirl, you too also prove my point that there are too many I don't knows!

I hope this posting is ok, and I will not make multiple postings this time. I am conducting a survey with several christian churches about how much they're being taught after they're married, about sex, what is ok and what isn't ok. Here is my website here: link removed If anyone would like to talk about the matter I'm open for it. In my church they don't teach us anything about what is ok after you're married and what isn't ok. It's kind of frustrating, especially if you and your spouse disagree on what you think is ok and what isn't. I've been married 4 years and we're still arguing over what is right and what isn't. So, I hope this post is ok because it is sincere. I'm not selling anything or promoting anything or anything like that, I just want to know if anyone else out there is just as confused or has similar problems... hopefully I'm not the only one! Thanks. Josh