ok..lets see..i think i can help-- well i have the same problem-- the only thing is that i'm the girl-- when i first started dating my boyfriend i weighed 135 then i went up to 235-- yep 100 pounds-- what i pig i am-- well it wasn't that i wanted to gain weight, but it seemed as if i took it out on the food-- all the problems i had i would eat, and that wans't right-- a little after i started gaining the weight-- my boyfriend had a terrible problem with it-- he started saying that i wan't atttractive and it came to the point where he didn't even want to touch me any more-- as a result i started eating and eating more-- thank god i got rid of that loser!!! i am happy now-- i've lost about 40 pounds but i've still got a long way to go-- if u truly love your girlfriend you should sit down and have a talk with her-- tell her that you are there for her if she is having any problems outside of your relationship-- and try to encourage her to join a gym or tell her that you'll work out with her- it'll serve both of you good-- well, good luck and hopefully you'll find some of my words helpful-- if you truly love her, don't focus so much on the weight, but on the person which she is inside- if my exboyfriend would have done this-- things would of been a whole lot different-- and i would have felt way better about myself-- although i must admit i still miss him-- no one deserves to be put down, due to their weight-- -wishfulthinker-