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    I've lost track of how many days it's been. Probable two weeks now. We are both going through potential job losses and that's actually been a good excuse not to contact her, and it also means I can justify her lack of contact as having a lot on her plate. Having said that I'm still a bit put off I haven't heard from her, but that's just my ego talking.
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    Know what you mean.Mine don't have her in them really - latest one was a crazy parrot trying to peck my eyes out. Absolutely bizarre. I went to a metalish gig last night! went to see F*cuked up, was brilliant. I've noticed that because I'm saying yes to everything right now, I'm doing things I used to and never did do as I would invariably turn things dow to spend time with my ex.
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    Day 15. Haven't heard from her since her last text in reply to mine, but then again I didn't reply as there wasn't anything obvious to reply to. Don't think about her 24/7 anymore but I still get the whole morning sadness. Plus I've been having the weirdest and slightly unpleasant dreams the last few nights as well.
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    Well, to be clear I don't think my ex is actually blindly following their advice, but is rather influenced by what they all believe collectively as a group ie. This weird Sex in the city vision of love and relationships. Fact is my ex hasn't removed me from facebook, and I'm pretty sure that during our breakup "evaluation" period these girls were reasonably neutral. It's more the fact that this serial dumper is currently single and I know is now pushing to move in with my ex, so her motives are whack. And the other one dumped her ex a year or so ago, and when he went NC on her and started dating about 3 weeks later she got all upset cos she was "lovely to him and what did she ever do to deserve that"? So I'm guessing my NC pushed a few buttons. Then there's another friend who was dumped after 10yrs with a guy, who she is now friends with (what her motivation is I don't know) of course during my breakup i got the "x and y have such a good friendship, hopefully we can have that" thing. I didn't say anything but had to really bite my tongue. Very much keeping up with the Jones' in some really weird and twisted way. Suddenly all these friends are becoming single for whatever reason, and hey, lets rip the town up and party like it's 1996 again. Hmmm ok. She'd been single for 4 years before me and would express slight jealousy about all her friends in long term relationships. Now they aren't and I get dumped. Bit hivemind
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    Day 14 for me. Not doing well. LemonCheesecak, I suspect my ex is getting similar messages. One of her very close friends removed me as a facebook friend about a week or so ago while I know she was staying at my ex's, so god only knows what was being said. Another girl my ex has spent a lot of time with is a serial dumper, very much grass is greener character. Sad thing is that they are all 30 - you'd think they'd have matured a bit. Oh well.
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    Day 13. Still miss her but coming to terms with differences between us. I still don't think they were anything we couldn't have dealt with, but it takes two to make something work.
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    Day 12. Miss her. I've also forgiven her and myself completely. Sh*t happens.
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    Day 11. Went out to a gig last night and saw some stunning girls, plenty of eye contact, but didn't get an opportunity to talk to anyone at that point. My ex is in and out of my head. Problem is now I'm also dealing with emotions around possibly losing my job and living on a pittance, so it's all become a big emotional ball. And I can't exacely go NC on work Ah well. I'd REALLY like to just talk to her - I think I'm at the point where I wouldn't talk about our relationship and keep my cool. Having said that, I do still feel great sadness.
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    Day 10. Went out to watch the rugby last night and met a girl who is recently out of a relationship - chatted and mightbe something worth pursuing as I do not want anything serious right now. Ex still in back of my mind but acceptance is sinking in.
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    Day 8. We both work for the same company and both face redundancy. Did think of contacting her to find out how things were going but throught better of it. She'll probably think I don't care and am a horrible person, but she hasn't contacted me either!
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    Day 7. Ha. Tip n-23243234 for not thinking about our ex. Get your company to put all staff into a consultation period. Focuses the mind...! Gah.
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    Day 6. All sorts of thought going round in my head. Went to therapy yesterday and my therapist did say she thinks I'd stated what I wanted ot happen, then left. She thinks it was good that I had reached out last week but agrees to leave the ball in my ex's court now, even though she did reply to my text. I am definitely moving on, and at the moment working through resentful feelings towards her.
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    Yeah, it's happy in a "give me hope" way but that might not be helpful to you right now.
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    I'm sure she does. Memories don't get erased! I chose Chris Rock because he has some incredibly astute and funny things ot say about relationships that put things in perspective. Totally recommend it!
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    Hi brazilgirl21, I've had intermittent contact from her mother and her brother - it's a tough call. On one hand I don't think it's breaking NC, but it depends on whether their family will tell them you've been in touch, and how they react. It can go one of two ways really - either they are curious about what you're up to, or they feel resentful about the intrusion into their family life. It's a tough call. I know my ex has spoken to my mum, and on one hand it gives me hope, on the other I do feel a bit uncomfrotable about it.
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    Day 5 for me, second time around. It's a lot easier this time round, managed 3 weeks last time but it was hell. Just been reaching out to old and new friends - trying to organise a day go-karting with a bunch of people. I still think about her all the time, but I'm finding it easier to accept the situation. After nearly bumping into her yesterday and her obviously avoiding me, I'm making sure I leave a little earlier so it doesn't happen again! I'm drinking horlicks in the evening as well to make sure I sleep which helps too. Watched a Chris Rock dvd last night which made me laugh
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    Joining this thread because I was doing NC responding to her texts, and then broke down due to her not congratulating me on being nominated for a professional award and contacting her. So I'm hoping participating in this thread will help me through the rough times. So, so far... I text her on Saturday asking her whether she had a good time at the ceremony, which was on Thursday. Spent the whole weekend feeling liek the last month or NC/LC was for nothing. Haven't slept in two days, but at least now I'm ANGRY at my perception of her rudeness and lack of consideration. I think she saw me walking to the station this monring (I saw her on the other side of the road but ignored her) and text me a response this morning, and congratulated me. I've deleted it without responding. So Technically, NC since saturday 5pm. Day 4 today. Good luck everyone.
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