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    Maybe not!
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    Day 1 again! She phoned me... i answered... amateur! We have come to a mutual agreement that we are going NC for the next 2 months, and then we are going to go out for dinner on our anniversary (3rd May) and see where the land lies. At least now its a mutual agreement it should be easier to stick to... hopefully!
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    Day 1... Again! She phoned me last night as my dads been I'll. Can't help myself, always answer the phone! Feeling pretty crappy today, going to a friends birthday tomorrow (and so is she!) Really worried about the outcome, either I'm going to get smashed and make a fool of myself or someone will try it on with her and I'll end up smashing them! either way not good! I know I cant trust myself to stay sober tho.
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    Day 2 today! got a serious case of deja vu! Feeling very low, today was destined to be a crappy day as our wedding song came on the radio on the way to work! Not a nice feeling! Although I did see her on V.day it didn't make me feel any better, nice to know she wasn't going out with anyone but I cant understand why she made a bogus excuse to come round and collect something and then when she was there was quite distant and cold? maybe even a little * * * * * y! What was the point of making the effort to find an excuse (even if it was a poor one) and come round just to give me the cold shoulder? Its our friends birthday on thursday so we're both going to that (seperatly!) its going to be the first time we've both been out amongst our friends since the split so thats going to be very awkward and I'm really not sure how Im going to handle that one, even thinking about not going but I dont see what good hiding away will do. Just really hoping no one makes a move on her as it will destroy me! Really hoping this starts to get easier soon because right now I'm suffering! I just want to go to bed and not wake up for a month. Someone make the pain go away! Please!
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    NC has gone right out of the window the last couple of days. I ended up sending her a valentines card to say that just because Im not around and trying to keep to NC doesn't mean I dont still love her. I got a text saying thankyou and that she appreciated it. Then she came round to pick up some stuff from our house which she didn't really need but seemed quite distant and cold so dont really know what to make of that?!? so basically * * * * weekend all round, wish I had never broken NC to send the card as all its done is made me think about her all the time. When will I ever learn? Why cant I just let go and accept that its over and shes not coming back? WHY CANT I JUST LET GO?!?!?!?!?!?!
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    I tried to do the friend thing with my ex, it doesn't work!!! All that will happen is you will get a false sense of security thinking things are getting better and they will think they can have their cake and eat it! You are there for her so she doesn't have to miss you, wonder what you are doing etc. but she doesn't have any commitment so she can do as she pleases. In my case all it did was prolong my agony and make me lose even more self esteem as YOU WILL make a mistake e.g. try to kiss her and when you get knocked back it will hurt like hell and you will feel like a prize knob! I think we can safely say tomorrow is going to be a difficult day for all of us in this thread! My ex has said things in the last few days like... Its weird not having you around and sometimes I think i might of made the wrong decison so im quite tempted to send her a card or some flowers just to test the water, the thing is NC has got me this far... her missing me... do I ruin the good work it has done and put myself out there as bait or do I continue hoping tomorrow will be as lonely for her as it is going to be for me?
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    brazilgirl21 & BrokenheartUK - ta! What about... "I know what you mean, its hard for me 2 but you wanted your own life so I've got to get on with mine" ?
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    Couldn't of put it better myself! But that is my dilemma, she ended it nearly two months ago but we have been seeing/talking to each other almost every day until i initiated NC about 2 weeks ago. Obviously NC is making her think about things and I dont want to undo the good work it has been doing but on the other hand dont want her to think that I'm a heartless git who wants nothing to do with her and make her feel that she made the right decison in the first place. So here I am, lost again not knowing which way to go...
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    I do see your point, Im happy not to initiate anything... Txt, email, phone etc. just dont want to look like an arsehole by ignoring her completely. Maybe thats beside the point and the NC is having an effect hence the email... I just dont know...
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    brazilgirl21 - Sounds like he still cares alot about you, and in a way is putting you before this other girl. Think about it she probably wouldn't be too happy about you calling him up when hes away with her... but hes ignoring that and putting your feelings first! Says something, not sure what but definatly something. Now help me! what do I say about the above??? Do I reply and say I feel the same, or that Im trying to get on with my life and this is the only way? I dont know what to do??!?!?!?!?!? Help!
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    Arhhhhhh! She's just emailed me again!!! Saying that its really weird for her after all these years not having anything to do with me anymore. What do I say back (if anything?)...
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    good lad! Still feel good about mine even tho offically i broke NC by carrying on the convo, but she did say that she has had a couple days recently where she has thought that maybe she made a mistake by leaving which has confused me a bit.
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    Dont know im in the same position, Dont think it should count as sometimes it is essential to speak to them and after all the idea of NC is NOT to make yourself look like a self riteous * * * * * but to give yourself and them space. I am counting mine as a breach in NC because we had a bit of a txt convo after the phonecall even tho it was initiated by her. Your call really mate, if she initiated and you only answered with the detail you needed to then i would say no, if you continued the convo past the point of politeness then i would say thats a breach.
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    Should be day 10 for me but... Think NC has affected her more than me, she found a really stupid reason to call me re: some ongoing financial situation that didn't need to be spoken about as its already been discussed and sorted. I just answered the question and explained I had to go as I was busy, for the next hour i was bombarded with texts asking what is wrong and why i was so keen to get off the phone. I did send a text back explaining that I was busy and got a reply saying that she was upset and hurt that I dont want to speak to her anymore and when I do its very short and to the point, to which I replied that I was busy she knows my feelings and she has made hers perfectly clear so she cant blame me for keeping myself busy and getting on with my life. So I think im back to day 1, not sure if it counts against NC as i didn't initiate the conversation simply replied but suppose contact is contact. Not feeling bad about it though as it shows that she is missing me and from some of the other things she said, she is starting to think about whether she made the right decision by leaving. Not getting my hopes up tho, just going to continue on as before. NC day 1.
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    Yeah that did help, thanks.
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    brazilgirl21 - Most of what you said sounds like the break up speach I had. The attraction is gone, not wanting the intimacy, no butterflies... If i didn't know any better i would think i was talking to her! lol Thanks for the advice nice to know there is someone out there with a bit of persective from the other side! I can go and sort the TV without seeing her as Im still very close to her parents and her house is practically next door to my work + she wont be back from work for at least an hour after I finish. Plus the fact if i say im busy she may ask me to come and do it another day. So what do you think? do I do it for her baring in mind I know what is wrong with it and it will take 10mins or do I let her get someone else to do it? In either case what do I say back, if anything?
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    Ahhhhh battle stations.... Incoming.... Message just received....! "Hi, hows things with you? i was jus wondering if you would be able to have a look @ the TV when you get a chance? Don't worry if you can't I'll get someone else to do it. can you just let me know either way pls? Thankyou x" What do I do?
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    Ixtapa "I have so many unanswered questions in my head and I keep analyzing every little thing he said and did." Feeling that! Like most of the signs and symptoms of my breakup seem to point to GIG but she also said things like I still love you but not in that way and I dont see you like that anymore... Now could these things be occurring because of the other symptoms of GIG?, is it just an excuse? or did the way she thinks/feels about me completely change in the 8 months we were married? brazilgirl21 - would like you opionion on this as you seem to have been on the other side before
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    DO NOT LET HER GIVE IT TO YOU IN PERSON. Dont be mean about it and say that you dont want to see her. Make it sound like you already have plans and either get her to deliver it to your house and give it to a family member (MAKE SURE YOU ARE OUT!) or get a friend to collect. But make sure you make out that you are too busy to meet her in person for it, and make yourself busy. This way she will think that you are getting on with your life and are not bending over backwards to see her. You will need to reply to explain this but shouldn't count as breaking NC as its essential, just dont ask how she is, put any kisses or make small talk. Be to the point, no frills, say what needs to be said and nothing more.
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    Day 7 for me - a week! never thought I'd make it this far!! Still thinking about her 24/7. Had a crappy nights sleep last night but nothing new there. Ended up going for a drink with her dad last night as i'm still quite close to the family and he even intived me back for dinner... which i refused... go me! Just hope that I can start sleeping properly soon, 6 weeks with not one decent nights sleep is really starting to take its toll.
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    Know that feeling, well stay with it buddy. Be strong!
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    Wiley - Setup a standing order for 1 month for this months amount and then a standing order for the correct amount from next month onwards. I was in a position where I could justify seeing my ex for any stupid reason and no matter what advice was given to me I ignored it and did it anyway. Only two things come from this... 1. If you keep seeing/speaking each other even for valid but avoidable reasons she will not miss you and realise how much you actually mean to her. 2. YOU WILL NOT START YOUR HEALING PROCESS!!! Its completely up to you dude, I know how rough it is and how easy it is to justify seeing/speaking to her but unless kids are involved these situations can always be avoided! If your anything like I was you will do it anyway but at somepoint buddy... You have to say enough is enough! The sooner you leave her be and get on with things the sooner she will start worrying that its not her decision anymore!
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    Just think about yourself for a while. You'll still have her in the back of your mind just as i have mine but the further you distance yourself the better you'll feel. I've only just managed to start to do that myself... No contact and no checking her profile and I feel so much better for it. I can actually start to imagine life without her, still dont want life without her but thinking about it as reality is the first step. Be strong brother!
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    Dude dont do it to yourself. Looking at her profile is worse than speaking to her. YOU REALLY DONT WANT TO KNOW WHAT SHE HAS BEEN UP 2!!! It never makes you feel any better, only worse... I speak from experience!!!
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    Wiley - I dont think there is anyone else. She assures me that there isn't and she doesn't want anyone she wants to be free, but its usually the first question asked when i explain the situation to people and to be honest I would be the last person to know if she was. Im also still friends with alot of her friends who assure me that there is no-one else. But she is a beautiful woman so im sure if she hasn't found anyone already it wont be long. BrazilGirl - I agree and I dont judge her for leaving because that is the way she feels and you just have to do what makes you happy in life otherwise whats the point. Also we were very young when we got together i was 18 and she was 17 so i think she feels that she is missing out on life by being tied down so young. Just ashame this came to light AFTER we got married!
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