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I agree with you there Misskitty16 There have been a lot of things (not connected with exes, etc) that have happened to me since the split, some good, some bad. But it all puts things onto persepctive for me. Everyone here is different and however people choose to get over the heart break, even if it be getting back together, I think we have to be happy with ourselves. It works for me. I'm not sad, angry or bitter anymore. I just told myself that it didn't work and that fine, things happen for a reason. If it's meant to be then it will be.
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Hi All I've come back for a little visit and to see if anybody is here from a couple of months ago. I'm up to Day 100 and something, I gave up counting a couple of months ago. It really does get easier or maybe I wasn't as invested as I thought I was. I've had a few dates and got back on the horse 'as the saying goes' without giving you all too much information *wink* Anybody seen Jellybaby41? (I think thats the right username) Cat
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Hi imjgh I've highlighted my favourite part of your post, that's how I feel now, so it has to be a positive that you can at least think it every now and then (maybe not all the time, just yet) It's really easy for me to say 'it get's better' and 'give it time' because I'm in a place where I am quite happy to be on my own or with someone (actually at the moment, I think I would prefer to be on my own, but I'm not sure why yet..hmm..have to figure that one out). I hope it goes ok (not the right word, I know) tonight. Cat
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Hi All I've come back for a little visit. I am up to day 40, and I had to go back to my old posts to check that! I'll try and remember when I get to 60 and have a little celebration...LOL Things didn't work out with the new guy I met, but that's ok, there was no emotional investment and it took my mind off the ex relationship. Most things are good. I hope everyone else is ok Cat x
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Oh I quite agree that NC does start with the hope of them wanting us back, I felt like that. I don't want to take away anyones hope. Maybe it just takes time and acceptance to really appreciate that in the end it's for ourselves.
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Best of luck to you imjgh, well done for getting to the 30 days. I hope it works out for you, however things turn out. I bolded the bit of your post that was most important to me and hopefully to other people on here.
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Whoop whoop! Well done Jellybaby. I may not be around here as much but I will keep checking and cheering you on to another 30 days. I'm lucky that I had a different way to get over my ex, but I know from previous relationships that it can take a whole lot longer and be a very painful journey. But it is a journey and the destination will be your happiness, however you find it. Hope your able to smile. Cat x
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Well done Jellybaby, you've done good Are you going to have a 30 day party?
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I descend from a long distinguished line of weebles...LOL
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Very good advice, my mum said the same thing to me. Mum's are great aren't they
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Wahoo, well done SG. I'm the same as you, I'm on here less and less. But it has been so helpful, especially your posts. Your also very positive and inspiring. Day 33 (I think), I'm going to stop counting, it only makes me think of the ex, and I'd rather not. Not because it hurts, it's just a waste of my time...LOL.
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Thanks. It didn't take much for me to get over it, the minute I find out someone has lied to me/about me (as I did about him) or cheated, that person just doesn't exist anymore. I'm not angry or upset. I don't feel anything, just indifference. Everybody on here has been very supportive and I don't think I would have made it to this point without the encouragment. I may stick around and spread the Cat love, but you'll all get annoyed with my jollyness eventually...you'll be begging me to log off...LOL Ta muchly
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Start of day 32. I haven't been on here as much for a couple of days. I have been feeling so much better about things. I don't want the ex back at all and things are progressing nicely (but carefully) with the new guy. Hope everybody else is ok
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Thank you. I agree and I think not saying anything or rising to the bait says more about me
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Thanks...Your catching me up I might hang around for a while. I like to keep you up to date with my wobbles.
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Thanks pace and philove.
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HI Guys I am so pleased with myself that I got to Day 30. I've had some interesting/troubling news yesterday. The ex is telling a mutual friend that he has tried to get in contact with me (to make himself look good) This is the link, it's on the healing forum - anybody wants to comment, give advice, please do. I'm stuck with what to do, if I defend myself it forces me to make contact and he might get an ego trip that he still has an effect on me. But I can't stand it when people lie to or about me. It does makes me more determind though. Roll on the next 30 days. Whoop whoop
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Thank you Jellybaby. I'm glad your having a better day It's always a bit up and down at first. Are you here at the moment? I've just started another post on the healing forum. My ex is being an idiot. Have a read, it's worth a giggle. I am pretty mad at the moment though, and that just makes me more determind.
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Hi I did block him, but then my mutual friend said they wanted to organise a reunion and the ex is going to be there (and I'm not going to not go, just because he is there). I didn't want to seem bitter in front of my friends (I don't care what the ex thinks), so I ublocked him. But it's not really bothering me at the moment. Maybe they just want us to see how fine they are without us. But we are doing fine without them...YES??? Hope your ok
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Only one more day to go. What happens after that??? Just went on to facebook and my ex had posted on a mutual friends status. I had a slight twinge, but nothing major. Progress I think. Must be something to do with the fact that I've kind of met someone else (on line and never done it before) and they seem very nice. The went a bit quiet for a while last week, but now they are back with a vengeance. Hope everybody is doing ok too. Someone once gave me some advice - the best way to get over a man, is to get on top of another one...LOL LOL LOL...so I am planning on doing just that.
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Nearly at 30 days...whoop whoop
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You will get through it Jellybaby You've been very helpful for me and lots of others on here, so the favour will be returned.
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Thanks SG. Go you...\\
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Thank you. Still having the odd wobble, but I'm actually feeling positive about being on my own or meeting someone else (at the moment)