Thank you all for the great advice. I don't really think he is having an affair. But, I do think he has lust in his heart. He is a wonderful family man. Great father. And, I do think he feels guilty that he is having these lustful thoughts. But, still doesn't know how to get rid of them. And, looking at nude women isn't helping any. I think that I am an attractive woman. Although I have gained 25 lbs I am by no means huge. And, still have men flirt with me. So, I don't think I am to the point where he shouldn't want to have sex with me. But, I am currently on a diet. He says thats not why he has no desire though. He just keeps saying he's just tired all of the time. But, from what I have known about men........they are never that tired. At least not ALL the time. The funny thing is.....it doesn't seem to bother him at all that we don't have sex but every month or so. To me though....it just doesn't seem right. I want the affection......that goes with it. He never goes a day without saying he loves me. But, sometimes I am afraid that is just a habit that we have always done. I feel like if you love someone then you want to show them. He tells me that its all I think about. And, yes.....it is........when you only get it maybe once in two months. And, even then you only get it if you start it. I have done so many things to try to maybe put him in the mood. Even when I act like I won't take no for an answer..........he still says NO. I am very calm with him about this. I am not a loud nagging person. I just don't feel like this is normal. Do any of you think its normal?