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  1. lovemeorleaveme00
    same here..we text each other and call each other evvvrrrryyydaaay... lunch time we talk about what happened in the morning at work and what were going to have for dinner together and everynight..i miss it so much! but things have changed..the thing is they were a lot of good memories so this is one guy that I am willing to have control of myself and not ruin things as they are because I wanna be happy with those memories..the good memories will make me forget about the last bad chapter in our relationship..and in time I know he will feel the same..you see whats good about NC is aside from the healing that you will get..its a known fact that when somebody's gone the good memories surface and plus with healing the bad memories will dissipate.. It happens all the time..not just with my EX..my previous Ex was like this too.. he practically disappeared in my life and he ignored my emails after that..then i got tired of it..then 5 months later..a long email explaining to me what happened to him and he still loves me etc..well..too late..!I moved on coz I found someone else..and this happens bet me and some people/friends/relatives that have hurt me ,offended me in the past.. one relative was so mean to me because she was preggy and his dad died and she was a different person..we had a verbal fight coz she was so irritable..so i didnt talk to her nothing.I went quietly...3 months later..xmas ..she wanted to make up... another friend..she was so nosy and so totally disrespectful about this present breakup that I got sick of her and hang up on her ...she was very obnoxious..6 months later..she was sorry and wants to talk..i will but maybe xmas..my mom said,they come back to me because I was an honest person and sometimes they have their on problems and youre there and they take it out on you...and when you back off,youre giving them the opportunity to think about you as the person who was honest and who was there for them..and sometimes you just got sucked into their personal problems and you think it was about you but actually it was all about them..so live with your life and try to be a good person all the time because in the end its the heart that really matters...
  2. lovemeorleaveme00
    angry heart! nice smiling picture!!
  3. lovemeorleaveme00
    yo welcome yo..your name is funny..anyway,a lot of people here have been treated this way..youre not alone..
  4. lovemeorleaveme00
    yo! you can do it!! its only hard in the beginning but when I start missing my EX I read some of the stories here and they take my mind away from him.And the best part is I can give my support to people who are just as confused as I was..so yo..you can do it!!!
  5. lovemeorleaveme00
    DAY 21.. This forum has healed me in a lot of ways.I wish I knew about this before. I found all the answers here.I found all of my strength here.I have so much respect for the people that are going through tough times because Ive been there and it wasnt easy if you dont have support.Now I wont be anxious anymore because now I know where to get advice when Im in trouble! 3 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!
  6. lovemeorleaveme00
    Im here rooting for you! go! go! go!
  7. lovemeorleaveme00
    Bostoneric,your story touched my heart and I feel for you because I moved from another town to be close to my now EX.yours was probably harder. Mine was 3 and a half years and when I moved here his family was my family. I think you had so much love in you that you 'dropped your life" in boston to be with her and then break up.I know how you felt about being unhappy with the circumstances and feel helpless because all you wanted was to be with her.I just cant believe she couldnt appreciate that.Sometimes we need to go through such pain so we can set our priorities straight.I left too because I felt the need to grow up not because I did not love him...I hope you find the strength to carry on regardless...
  8. lovemeorleaveme00
    its 1am..DAY 20!
  9. lovemeorleaveme00
    Bostoneric,you did the right thing and youre still doing the right thing!!
  10. lovemeorleaveme00
    hey foleno..thanks..i was feeling a little sad today but I thrive on these posts and I know IM NOT ALONE and I know NC is for the best so I will be ready for day 20.One day at a time...It takes a lot of effort to let go but I know I have to really do it because thats what real love is..and I know if I let go I can tell myself that I did it for love..I'll let love explain itself.( I dont know if that made sense!)
  11. lovemeorleaveme00
    today is my day 19th.I am not going to do anything but I always seem to think about him.I dont know if its just a habit or because xmas is coming. Dec 25 will be my day 30..
  12. lovemeorleaveme00
    All we can do for now is to just let it go..letting go doesnt mean that you have to forget her or get bitter but just let go of the negative thoughts and the wondering and the analyzing ..coz for now she's gone..he's gone..for now you have no choice but to let it go and live your life.Project your love on other things..be extra friendly to people in need..theres so many who's going through a lot who will give anything just to have somebody to listen to them. It sucks to be an emotional wreck all the time.I just got tired of being one.
  13. lovemeorleaveme00
    Its day 18 for me..I just realized last night,that I can never be mad at him because its too late,I already got to know his other side..his good side and even if he act weird post break up ,its all because he was hurting..so I guess everything will be ok ..I will be ok...
  14. lovemeorleaveme00
    day 16!..My feelings for my Ex hasnt changed but whats important is I am now more involved with my surroundings and the people that are around me..I am now comfortable with just being by myself if I cant make plans with friends and just make plans for ME!!!
  15. lovemeorleaveme00
    day 15 for me..he still enters my dreams
  16. lovemeorleaveme00
    extra 12 hours break to get back again to NC
  17. lovemeorleaveme00
    its been 14 days!!! Its been 16minutes and 21 days since you took your love away (again)..when he called me..that led to him not calling me again..but Im ok! I heard this on the radio today.......... Nothing Compares to You ~ Sinead O'Connor It's been seven hours and fifteen days Since you took your love away I go out every night and sleep all day Since you took your love away Since you been gone I can do whatever I want I can see whomever I choose I can eat my dinner in a fancy restaurant But nothing ... I said nothing can take away these blues, 'Cause nothing compares ... Nothing compares to you It's been so lonely without you here Like a bird without a song Nothing can stop these lonely tears from falling Tell me baby where did I go wrong? I could put my arms around every boy I see But they'd only remind me of you went to the doctor guess what he told me Guess what he told me? He said, girl, you better have fun No matter what you do But he's a fool ... 'Cause nothing compares ... Nothing compares to you ... All the flowers that you planted, mama In the back yard All died when you went away I know that living with you baby was sometimes hard But I'm willing to give it another try 'Cause nothing compares ... Nothing compares to you sinead, go for 29 hours and 14 more days ....of NC and post here..
  18. lovemeorleaveme00
    angryheart..I think its time to find and do things that will focus your mind off this guy.I started by going to the movies by myself .At first it felt pathetic but just to have two hours of ex-free thoughts was the start I needed for a change.It was a daily relationship.I had to look for things to fill the daily void..Until I started enjoying it and then I started talking to old friends and just trying to keep in touch with people I havent been spending time with while I was with my EX.I started visiting and driving to old friend's houses.I practically read a lot of books (self help) which helped me snap out of my negative mindset... I worked harder,worked late..anything that would keep my mind off him...the urges to text him were lesser and lesser..2 weeks,3 weeks..a month.. Sometimes I look at other men and just start wondering what's their love story.I had to be around people who where busy working to achieve their goals.I just did everything in my power to keep myself busy and I had to stop the why's..you can start doing this slowly...You will definitely not be able to forget him but at least if you have so many new activities and start seeing new faces,the past will be what it is..past..Someday you will still talk about him,talk about what happened but its not going to be the center of your gravity anymore.. Its not easy,its painful.. but not everything that makes us happy is right .Sometimes everything thats right can be painful in the beginning ..but hopefully there will come a time when choosing whats right will make us happy.
  19. lovemeorleaveme00
    its 12:38 am and its day 13 for me!! It doesnt feel like its almost two weeks since I started this.It does get easier and easier after the final push and realize that liver is liver is liver..!!(superdave's guide) LIVER IS LIVER IS LIVER!! when I wonder about him and I feel Im relapsing,I scream this in my head...and then I silently laugh.. here's from the book Im reading now..J.Osteen's Often,out of our greatest rejection comes our greatest direction. When you come to a closed door ,or something doesnt work out in your life,instead of seeing that as the end,regard that as God nudging you into a better direction.Yes,sometimes it's uncomfortable;sometimes we may not like ie.But we cannot make the mistake of just sitting back and settling where we are. hope it helps us all.
  20. lovemeorleaveme00
    youre welcome! actually,I am basing this on my experience which was although I wasnt entirely at fault for our break up I was ignorant about the 'healing' stuff.I went against the tide because I panicked.I was frantic because we were always there for each other but this time he turned away. I asked for forgiveness,I offered friendship(duh)but It was because I could not imagine him completely out of my life.I was like your EX at the beginning.I was in such a mental haze that even when people were telling me dont do it.. I just didnt know how to deal with the loss plus I couldnt get over the fact that its over.I still wanted to keep in touch and they I read about it and I learned from my mistakes.My ex probably reacted in the same way youre reacting now..and I know I was wrong and naive.I backed off for like a month and he became friendly again but I think he knows he had power over me because I did the pushing like I owe him so now no more...I still love him but after break ups the things that were once tolerable can not be tolerated anymore.Its only natural for people to get back to whats familiar thats why he misses you and Im sure he does.Youre still young and youre learning about this now.I never had a very serious relationship before until my EX and I think im a little embarrassed that Im learning this just now.What youre going through might be a blessing in disguise so let's stick and do whats right!!
  21. lovemeorleaveme00
    Angryheart,let him miss you.its happening too fast for you and give yourself time to process it.You have a reason for doing this.If you really cant help it,say something generic like ..cool or something but hide your emotions right now.Either his guilty ,in denial or really just being friendly and he just doesnt know that its selfish of him to do this after what he said.We're all here for you.Super dave said if you broke NC you have to post how it made you feel.
  22. lovemeorleaveme00
    Day 12 For Me..
  23. lovemeorleaveme00
    remember ,eyes on the price!! his respect for you and your self respect.. when I told my mom that my EX went to see me and decided to ignore me again ..she said its because Its like picking this fruit that its not ripe yet and of course what do i expect???its BITTER! kinda made me laugh
  24. lovemeorleaveme00
    angry heart you can do it..
  25. lovemeorleaveme00
    aah..i was having a hard time logging in..so i had to slightly change my sign in name. I am looking forward to logging in everyday! Its very therapeutic to go NC and doing this..okay day11!yes!
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