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  1. lovemeorleaveme00
    hi irish..that one was about 5 months..I emailed him,called him nothing.I think he was cheating on me.He was done and I stopped so it aroused his curiosity so he contacted me again wanting to get back.My current ex was totally different.
  2. lovemeorleaveme00
    hi foleno..yeah my Ex ex contacted me after months of silence..It was a long distance relationship and he emailed me explaining things.It just so happens that Ive already met someone else and I already stopped caring about him.It can happen but also it depends.Its different for everyone I think.The thing is if the love is still there and they come back and they still mean to you then things will be alright.Sometimes you're in that state of mind and you think its love but actually it may not.
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    just ignore her..she's so mean and Im sorry shes treating you this way and she has a bf?? Just delete her text ..you can do it!
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    day 3............
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    day 2...i feel good about this..
  7. lovemeorleaveme00
    Day 1..took a break xmas. I greeted him..He came over and left quickly.. The 30 days worked wonders for me.We're not as uptight..I even heard him call me hon..haha..Im not as emotional as I was and after he left It just felt like.. whatever..so ill go for it again..
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    i looked up online but it should be something like this: link removed or this: link removed
  9. lovemeorleaveme00
    You can look up any substance abuse counsellor in hospitals.They can help you get started somewhere.Ive heard about these..But youve filed for a divorce already?Im so sorry you have to go through this.
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    Im sure he loves you but sometimes when the person is doing drugs their state of mind is altered and they are not the person they used to be.Prescription drugs can cause that too.Even sleeping pills can cause depression or worsen depression.I think what youre doing now is right.Stay away for now and seek help.There are many support groups for family members who have drug dependent family members.They will tell you how to have the right approach in dealing with this problem.You have to be strong on this one and you cant help him if you dont have the right frame of mind as you suffer from this difficulty.I feel your pain.I hope things will get better for you and youre not a dormat.This is a real problem and I encounter this everyday at work.
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    I definitely can't be a doormat like him!! thats right yo! you shouldnt be! DAY 29..30 minutes ago I swear I had the urge of texting him.I was happy spending a nice dinner with one of my friends and then hanging out with her family..and then I got home..I was all by myself and he starts haunting me.. I still think about him..uggh..but its 12:05am and I made it to day 29.. one more day to the target day30..ill have fun tomorrow! i have friends over who will keep me busy until I get over this holiday xmas blues..then work again and then saturday night Im going dancin'! then new years eve I will spend it in the city to see the ball drop..I hope I stand next to a hot guy and he kisses me as I count it all the way down to New year and he kisses the old blues away and breaks the EX's spell on me forever!(ok enough..just fantasizing)
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    day 28! 2 more days to 30
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    day 27!! 3 more days til graduation day..not that im contacting him but it almost feels like I achieved something!
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    Day 26! Mc To Everyone Doing Nc!
  16. lovemeorleaveme00
    so should we call US CONTACTHICS???
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    hey foleno..your day 30 is dec 25? mine too! today is day 25
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    DAY 24..6 more days..am I going to get a certificate or diploma or something??aahhh... after 30 days Im going to go for master's of NC science..
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    Today it feels like my heart has been playing tricks on me again..oh foolish heart! This morning I was so cool and I woke up happy and at work all these talk about holiday parties and people giving me gifts and all this holiday spirit just got the best of me.I should be enjoying the season but instead I feel so overwhelmed and sad.Today was like the worst day of my NC life. I succumb to the thought of missing him so much.I had a beautiful xmas last year and I didnt know that it was my last with him.It hurts soo bad.Its so hard.I had urges to call him but I pledged allegiance to this NC challenge..and no way Im doing that.. I felt so strong the past 3 weeks but today I feel so defeated again.I hope its different tomorrow.This is the loneliest xmas Ive had in my entire life..well so far..
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    its day 23 for me..I still think about him to be honest but not as depressed and obsessed as I was.Im really starting to feel that closure from within.
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    day 22 for me
  22. lovemeorleaveme00
    Hey bostoneric,thats ok.Some of us here have done that so just let it go. Youre only human.We all get that urge to know.Its still early for you but in time youll feel stronger and there will be lesser urges to do it.Its hard for you coz she still has your heart captive and also some of your belongings.Just let it go for now and acknowledge that you just needed to know.Dont beat yourself up over that you shouldnt have done it.there's nothing wrong that you have kept that communications open but dont do it as much because its not the same anymore.Ive been through a 3 and a half year realtionship and its not easy to forget and expect that the love can just disappear abruptly. Im sure she appreciated it that you texted her and she was polite about it but you cant expect anything right now but her to be polite with you.She's probably feeling sorry and guilty thats why she couldnt add anymore to that conversation.There's nothing left for her to say.She knows its not easy for you but for now its all about you.Youre lost now but someday you will find yourself again.No matter how we tell you not to do it you will still do what feels right for you.Until you find that closure that you need whether it will come from her or from within you but for now its still too early .You will only get burned..If you feel that NC is not right for you then go LC because its not feasible to get rid of that attachment right away but you can do it gradually by keeping yourself preoccupied and not wonder what she's doing now.im sure she's in a better position than you coz she broke up with you.But someday things will get better for you because youve done the best you could then it will be the opposite way..so just take it easy acknowldge that pain because youre still grieving for the love you lost.I think we all have to go through that stage of grieving until weve grieved so much that its time for acceptance.
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    Its all part of human nature..its different stages..I think I have past that stage where you are in right now so I will be here to help you with this.and so will the rest of the people here who have been through this.I dont know if youve heard of the push and pull phenomenon.You dont want to get sucked in to that because that will definitely get you nowhere with her..Right now we are powerless..so we leave it to God.I believe that there are so many things that we are not in control of.(Like the snow falling from the sky and you want to go shopping but its not good to drive out..hmmp!) We are all different individuals and to be in a relationship means we can be connected but we are still individuals.Sometimes it feel so good to be together that we forget that the other person has his/her own life to lead. They have their own issues to deal with.She may have loved you too but sometimes love wasnt enough to stay.But people change,situations change.. You'll never know if in time you will change your feelings towards her..or she will change her feelings towards you..but in the end when you have achieved so much in your own life ,even if you will be with her in the future and with someone else you can look back and see what youve learned from your breakups! My ex, not this one was short but it was the relationship I needed at that MEANTIME.Because of what happened from that one I was able to control myself with this current ex and I wasnt as bad.lol! Now I look back and I know I was devastated but I was so naive and its too funny to think of the things I have done to validate the feelings I was having while I was in pain with that person...I remember crying over a relationship too and it was just a month.Now I know I was a rebound and I cried soooo much..big DUH!its hysterical!..We will live and we will continue to grow and learn and we will know how it feels to be respected and be disrespected.Its cool though because now you know we know how it feels like and how painful it is that when another person comes we have grown from the past that we will be gentler and kinder to the next one or if its with the same person then we will know which bad traits we need to change.NC will give us that room for improvement and so much more!!Your business now is find things that will cheer you up and enjoy the things and people around you..Its easy for me to say but even if it took a while and buckets of tears to be comfortable on my own ,I made it and Im ready to be a BETTER ME!!!!!
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    thats actually how I looked like right after the break up hahahaa....a lovesick monkey hahaa
  25. lovemeorleaveme00
    wow i didnt know that I posted a long one..it must be the weather..
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