I am new here, but I thought I would give this a try.
I have dated a few guys but I have never really had a good happy long relationship, just a few short ones. Bear with me it is a long one but you might need the history behind it.
Recently I met this guy online and he is older about 12 years older(39).I wasn't sure if age would be an issue but we had great chemisty on emails. We both agreed to take it slow. So after 2 weeks of emails we agreed to meet and go for coffee and if that went well we would go to dinner. So we met and then went to dinner. We were trying to figure out what to do after dinner and we could not come up with anything, then he suggested going back to his house but said "If your not comfortable with that, we can postpone it" So I said yeah let's postpone it" We then said goodbye and kissed and ended the date well.
Then the next day he sent me an email telling me how he had a good time and how about dinner this week. Then asked me about something I said on our date about going back to his house. To which I told him I knew if we did, I know that we'd end up gaving sex and I wanted to take it slow and he agreed. So we arranged dinner for Saturday at his house so he would cook for me. So I agreed as I really like him and we have a great chemistry.When Saturday came and I went to his house for dinner. He was great. He had made me 2 CDs of a band he liked that I ended up liking. He bought me chocolates, we snuggled, kissed and he gave me a shoulder massage. After dinner. we were going to sit down and watch a movie, but we sort of started making out and well it sort of snowballed. We got very intimate and he was very focused on pleasing me, but the confusion started.
He lost his erection twice. Which has never happened to me with a guy so Is that normal for guys at that age? Then I was thinking that I didn't want to please him to much as I thought we would end up having sex. But as of a sudden he finished on my chest.
After I asked him maybe next time instead of cumming on me we could have sex and he said " I won't cum inside you, besides it's no fun with a condom" Then he got up and went to clean up as did I. I came back and laid back down on the blanket thinking we were going to cuddle but he came back and put on his boxers and a pair of track pants offered me a cup of tea. No cuddling. Then we sat on the couch (not cuddling but facing each other) talking to which he asked me some really weird questions such about the guy who I rent from do we hang out at each others places. What was I doing tomorrow and that he was going to be super busy working. At midnight, He said "It's past your bedtime and your starting to fall asleep" but didn't offer for me to stay and to me it seemed he didn't want me to stay, so I grabbed my stuff and he said don't forget your cds and chocolates. Then we kissed he put on my jacket and asked me which cd he was now supposed to make me? We kissed goodbye. Then I left. Thinking what the heck just happened here? Was I a booty call or not? So yesterday I didn't receive a call or email from him. So I wanted to ask him about it so I called him but I got the answering machine so I just left a message saying I had a good time and that if he wants to call me he knows the number. Well he didn't call but sent me and email this afternoon saying he had a nice time too and that he got back late and thought it would be too late to call (as he called me once before and I was sleeping) and he will be late again so he thought he would send me and email. He said he hopes my week is off to a good start and he will talk to me soon!
So do should I talk to him about that? Am I getting the brush off here? Is he using me? or is he taking it slow? or am I even just crazy for thinking this. I do like him and I do want to persue this. Anyone have any insight here?
