Leonhart

Think less, act more.

Yeah, I can be nice, despite looking like a miserable S.O.B.

Whoops, wrong one. lol

Um, that SHOULD be it! lol

I don't know why anyone would want sex without love. Not that I'm trying to preach to anyone; I'm not. Just saying.

I don't agree with flippant sex either. I'm a prude. j/k

But I've never heard of this so-called rule anyway. Sounds stupid.

For me, if I were dating someone new I wouldn't see them more than once a week for the first month just so neither of us would get overwhelmed. Maybe twice towards the end of the month. I don't have sex outside of an exclusive relationship and before I've been steadily dating the guy for at least a few months and we are serious - as in - at least some potential for marriage.

My, you're very strict.

Only once a week, no more? What if you bumps into each other?

"Sorry, I've gotta go! I... uh, left the oven on! Bai."

For me, blonde hair and blue eyes. Typical, I know. But I have to be honest.

In all fairness, I've seen plenty of attractive girls who are redheads and brunettes, so I like all three. But if I HAD to choose, I'd definitely say blonde. Heck, every girl I've ever dated... was blonde. lol What does that say about me?

Eyes can be beautiful in any colour, too. It's what's behind the eyes that are really important, not their colour.

I've done that to guys' and girls' chairs - hell, one of each on each side before, at school. It's just a way for me to stretch out and relax. I like to take up space and unwind; sometimes that involves me taking up other people's space, armrests, chairs, whatever.

Maybe I'm just inconsiderate.

I imagine playing the same games OVER AND OVER again must get incredibly boring and tiresome. I'd grow to hate video games, if I had that horrible job.

Oh yeah, I forgot long hair. Long hair is so sexy on girls. I hate short hair on girls. A cute face and pretty smile go a long way too, but how could I neglect to mention hair?! Geez.

Whew. I'm having a case of happiness right now.

Yeah!!

It's nice to see something good happening to someone once in a while! It almost makes me believe there is hope for me. But whatever.

This topic's about you; getting out there, grabbing ahold of your life, improving things!

Kudos.

You're correct, except that looks are more subjective than that. I've seen both good looking and not good looking people with others who I think are not attractive. It happens from both genders, much to my surprise. It's true anyone will choose someone good looking over someone who isn't, sure. But the hitch is that it's almost entirely in their opinion, so while they may find you attractive (or not), others may not at all.

It's true that there are some commonalities among women and men, for what we deem attractive. It's in us genetically. But even that can be altered and other qualities can be viewed as more or less important, based on personal standards and preferences. I think you're being too hard on yourself. I've seen plenty of short men with girls I would deem as "hot," so lighten up.

Sweet, romantic, polite, gentle, kind, forgiving, generous, affectionate (huge - I don't like cold fish), supportive, understanding, warm, stylish, takes care of her appearance, feminine and has faith in someone greater than herself.

You will.

Don't worry.

Shyness is about as genetic as it is environmental. Studies of identical twins have shown this, even when reared apart, they tend to be more shy and alike than non-identical twins raised together. For better your worse, your genes influence your disposition a lot. I find I'm becoming more and more like my dad every day.

And unfortunately, BOTH of my parents are quite shy. So it's only natural I be somewhat shy myself. But I'm probably less introverted than they are, only due to desire to change that.

It looks like she edited them out. Go to the off-topic forum and look under the 'post your pic' thread. I believe hers is there, among many others.

You're right. No sleep makes the brain do funny things.

As for women going for jerks, some do and some don't. It depends on the woman. Some like jerks, most don't. The ones who do, it's their loss. To the majority who don't, they like... well, I don't really know WHAT they like lol, but I assume it is NOT jerks. Probably something along the lines of the way the guy carries himself, maybe his looks, maybe his attitude, but not the fact that he is going to hurt her. No one likes to be hurt, unless they're a... what's the word for it? Starts with m? Anyway, most people don't enjoy being hurt and would gladly choose the sweet, nice guy over the jerk, as long as they are ATTRACTED to him in the first place.

Based on your other post, it sounds like the plan worked!

Why not? Even I've done it! Much to my dismay.

now if a woman comes up to you and says "wanna _ _ _ _?" i'd say that is 100% certain. lol. that has only happened to me once though. it was a friend and i will never do that again. we aren't friends anymore.

 

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Wonder why...

I think looks play a very important role in determining who we are and are not attracted to. That said, beauty is so in the eyes of the beholder. What one person finds attractive, another may find repulsive. So... and I can't believe I'm saying this... there truly are no ugly people in this world. Because no matter who you are or what you may look like, there will ALWAYS be someone out there who finds you attractive! I've only recently just come to realize this.

So even if people do base all of their first impressions on appearances, it doesn't mean it's vain, shallow or certainly not, hopeless. Beauty is so subject it isn't even funny. Why am I bringing this up? I don't know! I'm very tired and haven't slept in many, many hours. lol

yeah, where did 'player' come into this? a jerk is a jerk. attractive or not. there are good looking guys out there that aren't jerks. i'm a mommas boy and i'm attractive. so there you go.

 

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The proof is in the pudding. Let me see your pic. lol

Well, not everyone believes that.

I can hear the dread in your voice. Don't worry so much. There's no reason to worry that things won't work out.

Absolutely no disrespect intended, but how tall is she and what does she weigh? If she's a bit on the heavier side, she could try losing weight in order to lose some of the fatty deposits on her breasts. If she's thin already and can't lose the weight, then... you're a very lucky guy! Sorry, but you are!

I guess you could try reassuring her that she's perfect the way she is, and to stop caring what other people think of her. Boost her self-esteem so she no longer cares what others think of her. If they stare and can't accept it, it's THEIR problem, not hers. Why should she suffer over being large-chested?