Amen to that. You know I understand that there are a few things that people can't control, however there are quite a few things that we can!! This is just me, but I work in a nightclub two days a week. I have very good looking woman approaching me a good portion of the time. I have no problem saying no, or just walking away, that gets the point accross very effectively. I know that I could technically get away with it, the wife doesn't come by very often and we live far enough away that I could come home and she would never know. I still don't, even with women around me all the time and people that I work with who could give me an alibi, I still don't. Listen, if I can with weekly temptations, I can't see how others give in. If you think the temptation will be too great, LEAVE the situation. We aren't dogs or cats, we're people who can think and reason. I'm sorry I have no sympathy for that. At every stage in the affair someone could have stopped, someone could have said no. You can't fix a marriage by going outside of it!! I do wish you the best kermit, you had the courage to post, radioheader, I hope things turn out for the best for you becuase you so didn't deserve what happened to you. Gang, cheating never solves anything and the collateral damage effects everyone. There is no excuse, whatsoever!!