Hey all. Im fed up feelin down every second minute
n pickin myself up and tellin myself to cop on. Im
24, and nearly 18 months ago a 4 year relationship
ended, which I took badly. It was my first real
long term relationship. We both mad about another
or so I thought. We made some stupid mistakes like
drifting from friends,not making new ones
etc...basically hanging out of each other during
college. IT was either her or my classmates in
college that I hung around with. Both got on really
well with our families, she rang me every night for
4 years. Really nice looking girl, and what I
tought had a heart of gold
About 3 months before it ended I Went to end it as
I thought she was getting bored and losing
interest. SHe ended up crying and begging me to
take it back. I told her how delighted I was she
cried and how much I loved her etc...At this stage
she was 60 miles or so away from home and I only
saw her on weekends. 3 months later she came home
with a note to me saying she was in a club with her
workmates and a guy made a pass at her. It went on
to say that she didnt kiss him but wanted to. I
flipped, said it was over. Walked off, she ran
after me. We sorted things out. 3 days later she
ended it.
I was really down for 2 months solid. Went from
talking to nobodt to pouring my heart to every mate
and half mate I knew. Coudnt eat properly for a week. Embarressing now come to think of it. Complete fool are words that
spring to mind. I begged her, left horrible
depressing (drink played a little part here) voice
messages on her phone, and (the bit that kills me
and I cant believe I still did it) listened to her
voicemails on 4 occasions as I knew her pin number.
I know Im a fool for getting so upset and an even
bigger unforgiveable fool for tormenting her and
listening to her messages.
I eventually snapped out of it, and 7 or 8 months
later bumped into her in a club. She completely
blanked me after just saying hello. She wants
nothing to do with me. Im not upset about that as I
was, but I find it weird all the same.
I cant stop thinking about the whole thing. A
friend of mine sent me a link a week ago of her
bebo(stupid website in my opinion) page (Which Im surprised at 'cas I thought she wouldnt be into that thing). She's portraying
herself something like a 17yr old slapper whose addicted to the net and loves all this chat,photos bebo crap. Not that it has anything to do with me but it kinda
disappoints me a little that she's showing herself to be like this. Pics of her wearin skimpy close drunk out of her mind...it does niggle at me a little. I deleted the email and dont have the link now but I remember it being tacky, immature and slutty to be honest. I know when girls get out of a
long term relationship they go for the fun thing but this seems a little over the top and a bit weird.
I know what alot will say now, I felt like saying it to myself as I typed. GET OVER IT and MOVE ON! Yeah, I tried. I finished college, made some new
mates, living with 2 best friends and got a new job....but I miss what I had and I hate lettin go of our history. Sad, I know. Ive read over what I
wrote there now and sometimes I wouldnt care, but its like the first line reads - "every second minute". I wish I could go to bed for a week or to
without thinking of this situation that was 1 1/2 years ago. Theres great points to what happened. I can be a lads lad again, be with my mates etc...
but if Im honest deep down I havent been happy in a long while.
Sorry for the rant but kinda needed to get it out there.