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I tried last night to have sex with him but he said he did not feel good the old classic I have a headache routine so yet again like I have so many times before I cried myself to sleep. I guess he felt guilty this morning because when I got out of the shower we did have sex and I must admit it was really good, but I don't want him to have sex with just because he feels guilty I want him to really want me and desire for me. We are both very attractive people so it not looks that get in the way it's passion that we are lacking.

He always changes the subject or just says he is tired from work or sleepy and just wants to go to bed. If I want sex I have to be the one that provokes him every time.

I think a healthy sexual relationship when you are married or live with each other is two or three times a week is good!

Thanks for your advice we have planed a long weekend trip together at the end of this month we are going to get a couples massage and just relax and enjoy each others company. Hopefully with this romantic setting this will be just what we need to get the spark back in our relationship.

My boyfriend is 36 and I'm 25 and we have been dating for two years and we have recently moved in together and he has lost all interest in me sexually and I do not know what to do. In the beginning of our relationship I was in college and only got to see him on the weekends when I would come home from school so we would have sex every weekend because we knew if would be another whole week till we got another chance, but now that we see each other everyday and have all the chances in the world because it's just the two of us at the house we never have sex. What gives? Also at the beginning of our relationship he couldn't keep his hands off me and we were always trying new adventures sex positions now if I lucky enough to get to have sex with him (only about once a month) we only have sex missionary style with no new moves at all. Also he use to make sure I had several orgasms before he would climax to make sure I was 100% satisfied now he always climaxes before I do and I end up having to finish myself off masturbating. I know I am younger than he is, but should a 36-year-old guy have no sex drive at all? I miss the together time and closeness I felt with him during sex. Now I'm lucky if I get a peck on the check goodnight? When I ask him about why he has no sex drive towards me he says he is tired when he gets home from working, but I work just as hard as he does and I still want sex? I want to marriage this man, but I know sex is a big part of any marriage and if this is a preview of what's it is going to be like I don't know? I am still very attractive to him I just wish he was to me? I have tried wearing sexy lingerie, playing with sex toys, etc and nothing helps. Any suggestions? Desperate in Memphis. Thanks!