Ngenzi

Try to wear a sexy lingerie and take control of situation ,don't wait until you go to bed start kissing him the moment he open the door, massage him and don't take off your hands from his private part he will love it.

I think you need to sit down with your wife and try to solve problems .But if you are sure you want to be with other woman divorce your wife first and tell your women of dream about your feelings couse you mite found out she feels the same way as you.After all you have nothing to lose. Goodluck