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Thanks for the reply. It's good to hear that. Right now it's just so damn hard to focus on anything but what I don't have. I'm trying not to drip on my friends too much and they're being really good about holding me up so maybe it's a chance to get reacquainted with them. Thanks again. Woodstock

I think it depends on why you're saying it. I know I suffer from "I love you" -itis when I'm feeling particularly insecure. I'll say it because I need to hear it back; I need reassurance that my loved one loves me. If you're saying it because you feel it then it's probably not a bad thing. If you're saying it out of habit or because you're really asking for reassurance you need to examine your habits and learn to ask for what you really want. After all, asking for what you really want directly is a much better way to get it than being oblique. Just my $.02 USD, Woodstock

I'm in a weird situation and I need some advice on techniques to be strong. I recently "did the right thing" and let someone I love deeply go; we agreed to be nothing more than friends, that it was best for both of us under the circumstances (both hers and mine), that we wanted to stay in each other's lives but that anything more than friendship wasn't viable (for a lot of complicated reasons including much distance on the globe). And even though I know it's the right thing to do, I can't stop thinking about her. It does not help that one of the reasons we agreed to this is that we had no formal committment of exclusivity and she is being pursued by a woman in whom she is mutally interested - someone tangible and proximate and smart and funny (and several years younger than both of us). My brain goes around in a circle picturing all the things that this kid is getting to do with her that time and space and circumstance prevented me from ever doing. I know what I need to do: let her go, step back, wait for her to decide how/if she is going to continue to be my friend. What I don't know is *how* to do that. So, does anyone have any recommended distraction techniques? Things for every day? Thanks in advance, Woodstock