Jump to content

signed xxx

Members
 View Profile  See their activity

  • Posts

    18

  • Joined

signed xxx's Achievements

Apprentice

Apprentice (3/14)

  • First Post
  • Collaborator
  • Conversation Starter
  • Week One Done
  • One Month Later

Recent Badges

1

Reputation

  1. signed xxx
    Hi, I don't if he's mad at me he doesn't talk to me. He'll say things every now and then in relationthe the girls but that's it. The times that I have talked to him, I have been calm. I used to be a the nagger and I learned that got me no where so I changed the way I talk to him but that hasn't made a difference. Honestly, I'm so tired of talking to him and getting no where. If he wants to make it work he know I'm here and If this doesn't work out at least I have the peace of mind that I believe I've tried everything.
  2. signed xxx
    Sorry I haven't replied. I was in the hospital with my little one and we got home last night. I didin't get much support form him during this tough time with my baby girl being sick. The day she got sick we went to the ER, he was at work and met me there. She was admitted and we were there till last night he came to see our daughter but didn't speak a word to me the entire time he was there. He wanted to know what the dr said so instead of asking me he went to the nurses station and asked the nurse. I know this because I was walking my daughter around the floor and I heard him speaking to the nurse. I have to say that he was at work and he came home after work to help my mother with my other daughter then went to the hospital to see our daughter. So i know he was tired and most likely stressed. I just wish he would've talked to me. I didn't try talking to him either, I didn't want to say anyting to get him upset. So I just kept my mouth shut. We got home and here I am today and haven't spoken to him and he hasn't said anything to me. I'm concentrating on my kids and I'm just going to continue to do that. Thanks everyone for the advice.
  3. signed xxx
    Beec, I will try tonight and I will let you know what happens. He's almost home and I have to go finish dinner. Have a great night and thanks again.
  4. signed xxx
    Beec, I thought by telling him how I felt I was being honest. I felt that if I told him the truth then maybe he can open up to me and tell me how he feels. That didn't happen I didn't do it to get back at him. I have no idea why he's been this way or what triggered it. It's funny you say I'm going into my shell My sign is cancer. You know Beec, I don't know if this falls into giving without wanting back, before things got this bad at the beginning of this mess. I used to always give him oral sex and expect nothing in return because I knoew I wasn't going to get anything. I was ok with that becasue I knew that I was still trying even though he didn't want to. Shortly after that he started saying no to that and pull me back away from him. When he goes to bed he gives me his back about 2 weeks ago I put my arm around him and he took my arm off of him, I turned around and cried myself to sleep. I've asked him do think something is worng with our relationship and about a year ago he would say no i think everything is good and now I get no reply. Maybe he's going through something but I wish he would share so that I can help him through it. I wish I knew what he was feeling because I would love for him to come home and want me. When he gets home I'm always in the kitchen getting dinner ready, I would give anything for him to come in and grab me, kiss me and be happy to see me. When we go to bed tonight I will talk to him and do what you said. Hopefully, tongiht can be a new night, a new change for us. Beec, thank you so much for all your input! you have no idea how much I appreciate it. I have no one to talk to. I have my mom and sibilings but my sister has a huge mouth and I have never been able to please my mother in anything I do. So I don't dare talk to them about something so personal. So again, I really appreciate all your input.
  5. signed xxx
    Hardcharger, My girls are everything to me. I have even asked my husband not to leave we can live as roommates for the sake of my daughters. If he finds someone to make him happy then we can sell our home and buy a two family house so that we can still live in the same house just so that my girls won't suffer. A long time ago he told me that he'll stick by me no matter what because he doesn't want to lose his girls. I was hurt by that statement but I assured him that he would never lose his girls. They are very attached to him and I would hate for them to miss him or go to bed knowing that their dad isn't here. Like I said before those girls are what have stopped me from leaving him. I could've walked out a long time ago but I feel for my babies. We've been married for 5 years but dated and lived together for 11 years before we got married (total of 16 years together). As far as being compatable we were so young when we got together that we have a lot of the same interests. In these 16 years the only time I was unfaithful was that 1 kiss with my ex. and I wrote before that I told him I wasn't going to talk to him or see him because I needed to fix this mess with my marriage. As far him being unfaithful he was the first year we started dating and he was with her for a year and half but we were kids and I have put that behind us. I have no idea if he has someone now. I'm an easy going wife, he goes out with the guys to clubs and bar hopping, he's gone away for weekends to miami. I don't feel like he's cheating, I don't go through his things lilek his wallet, email, cell phone. I have never checked anything so is it possible sure but I don't know.
  6. signed xxx
    Beec, I do watch greys anatomy. I'm into those shows I'm a funeral director in training. I have told him how I feel so many times, do you think that if I say it again it will make a difference? I always tell him how I feel be it good or bad. I have never held back how I feel from him. He knows how I feel. I have tried to kiss him and he turns his face on me, that hurts like hell and I don't want to hurt like that. I'm afraid to be rejected again and I know I'm going to get upset and what if it makes things worse in how I feel. I love him, I don't want anything to happen to him. On Sunday he got a bad migraine and got really dizzy to the point where he couldn't walk straight. I got scared and took him the the ER, thanksfully he only had an ear infection. So I care about him but I don't FEEL anything. Maybe because he hasn't touched me in so long. I don't know. You have no idea how scared I am of being rejected. It's like a slap in the face.
  7. signed xxx
    Beec, You are good!! You are right that I don't feel loved, I don't feel needed, I don't feel like he wants me anymore. I have been rejected so many times, I hate the feeling of being rejected and I don't want to go through it anymore. I'm scared to let my guard down again. I love him I just don't feel in love with him. If that makes any sense. So just let it be then? What else can I say?
  8. signed xxx
    Camber, It sucks we're going through this!! I'm sorry you feel it might be too late for your marriage. I'm afraid to get to your point, when he realizes what's been going on it's going to be too late. There is only so much hurt, rejection, and embarrassment one can take. I thought telling him that my love for him has deminshed would be a BAM for him like it was for you, but Like I said I didn't get much back. good Luck!!
  9. signed xxx
    Hardcharger, You are right about there being a lot to think about being that there are kids involved. I feel like I deserve to be happy but I also feel selfish. Is it fair to my kids that I'm going to break up the "happy" home they know because I need to be happy? At the same time if this is what's going on now I can only imagine what our life is going to be like in 5 years. So the thought of living another 30-50 years like this is unbearable. Should I end my relationship now that my kids are young (2 1/2 & 4) or should I continue to work at it hoping that he will change and what if he doesn't then I will end it in 5 years when my girls are 7 & 9. I know that it sounds negative thinking he's not going to change but like I said before this has been ongoing for 2 years and he hasn't changed yet. This is so hard!!!
  10. signed xxx
    Annie24 I suggested counseling a year ago and he said no he doens't want to tell his problems to someone he doesn't know. I have tried the massages, edible underwear, crotchless underwear, toys, videos, candles, bubble baths, rose petals on the bed, edible body paint, whip cream, I have gone from romantic to raunchy using leather and handcuffs, I have worn sports jersey's with nothing underneath. I had gained weight with my second pregnancy I was the biggest I have ever been at 170 lbs once the baby was born I went down to 158 lbs. I have worked my butt off to lose weight and be in shape. I went from a size 10 to now being 123lbs. and a size 2. I didn't have any stretch marks from the pregnancy (thank god). I'm now in the best shape ever. So I feel like I have tried everything, I don't know what else to do.
  11. signed xxx
    These past few days have been rough because we have barely looked at each other. We sleep in the same bed but it's like we're alone. In these days I have come to realize that I really don't feel anything anymore. I have felt it before but I wasn't sure. I have been blaming him for the way I am feeling. Last night I built up enough courage to let him know how I feel. After our girls went to bed (we don't argue or discuss our problems in front of our girls) I told him that we needed to talk, I told him that I was going to say things that were going to hurt but I needed to be honest, so I told him that the love I had for him has deminished and that we need to do something together to make it work or we should just separate for a while to see what happens. I told him that if he decides to separate I don't want him to leave maybe we can live together as room mates for the sake of the girls. He got mad when I told him and he said I'll just sleep in the living room and this is done. I said please don't leave let's talk about this to see what we can do, after begging him to stay he did and I continued to tell him that I was sorry and that I never thought I would feel this way but after not feeling any love and affection for so long I think what I felt for you slowly went away. He said I don't know what we are supposed to do with this, and I said I don't either but I had to tell you how I was feeling. He didn't say anythign else and I don't know what he's thinking. I feel like now what? I haven't spoken to my ex and I have no intention on talking to him or seeing him. I told him that I need to work this out. Did I do the right thing in being honest? Should I try talking to him again since he didn't say much last night or should I just let it be? Should I reiterate that I think we need to separate for a while? I'm so confused. I'll hear out anything you can give me. Thanks.
  12. signed xxx
    Hey everyone especially Beec, Sorry if I sounded frustrated I really was that day and I apologize. It's been rough these couple of days. I know not everything is his fault and it sounds like all this mess we have going on I'm blaming him, I'm not I know that I'm not the easiest person to live with but for all the years we have been together I have always been the same. He has changed and I have no idea why. He won't talk to me. It's not only sex, there is no communication what so ever. I still don't know what to do. Thanks for the advice. I'll keep cheking in and I'll check the other postings.
  13. signed xxx
    Beec, I have stopped asking him to sleep with me, I have also stopped trying to initiate it. I stopped that a long time ago. I work full time and I go to school full time aside from running my home and taking care of my 2 kids. So I am very busy and I love my husband and just want to enjoy his company. I'm not saying we have to have sex everynight but I have needs as well and in 2 years when you maybe get it once a month when it that was never the case, I think I have given him enough time and I have talked to him enough to change. I have asked him to please talk to me and let me know if something is bothering him or if there is something I can do to change. Maybe there is something you don't like about me. Beec I'm willing to chagne whatever I have to, to make my marriage work but I think he needs to put some effort into this as well. Don't you think? Thanks
  14. signed xxx
    hosswhispra, I asked him if he was having an affair and he denied it. As far as being gay now a days anything can happen but I don't think so.
  15. signed xxx
    Beec I talked to them to get their input as to what can I do to spice up my sex life, as far as the sex toy party he agreed to it. I wouldn't put him in an uncomfortable situation or have the party without his knowledge. He had friends who came along with their spouses who attended the party. He was into it, but behind closed doors it's a different story. All I'm saying is I've tried everything. It's not like I'm complaining and not doing anything to try to make it work. As far as talking he used to talked to me all the time about his day and a lot of other things in general. He used to communicate and tell me when something bothered him or when he accomplished something and he was proud of it. Again, it's not like I'm complaining because he has always been this way and now all of a sudden it's bothering me. He used to talk and we used to have a great sex life. Like I said b4 about 2 years ago all that changed and I don't know why. So should I contiue to live this way or should I tell me that we need a break?
×
×
  • Create New...