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Ixtapa

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  1. My ex and I have friends in common back in his home country (where we both do not live at the moment). I am "friends" with a couple of them on FB. This one guy posted a picture of my ex, himself and 2 other guys I know and I made a comment about it yesterday. Other people commented....and then tonight my ex also added something. I saw it and couldnt resist .....and I made a new comment that was obviously for him (it was something about hoping that life is treating him right Aaaaaah........I can't believe I BROKE NC. It was just a stupid comment I made on FB but he is not supposed to KNOW I even CARE about what he writes ..... Tomorrow will be day 1 again. 30 days are definitely not enough time to heal (today was day 29 for me). Back in the challenge.....
  2. I am one of those girls who was dating an arsehole......and to be honest I do not understand MYSELF for holding on to this idiot !!!! The worst thing being that I still care about him (when he obviously doesn't). He was caring and understanding at the beginning though....but it didnt last very long Definitely NOT dating another "bad" guy......
  3. My ex's bestfriend posted a pic of the both of them on FB....aaaah, can't help but think my ex is the hottest guy alive (I know that my opinion is biaised on that one, lol). I am SO hoping that he will contact me again at some point (coz Im not doing it for sure.....at least not until a couple more months have passed....I need more time to heal). I miss him.
  4. Wow....its been 4 weeks already since I last contacted him (and even longer since we last talked). I still think about him constantly. It doesnt hurt anymore though, which is good......I just wish I could stop thinking about him so much....
  5. I wonder why I can't forget about someone who was actually treating me like crap. It would make PERFECT sense to NEVER want to talk to that guy again...yet I can't help but long for him and hope he will get back to me, apologize and CHANGE. Why can't I just accept the fact that he is gone with another girl....and that I should actually feel LUCKY Im not with him anymore...he is probably treating her just as bad as he was treating me...
  6. He's online on MSN right now. I'm dying to contact him but I know he won't answer so I won't do it. In a weird way I feel connected to him coz of the simple fact that I can see him online. Stupid, I know. He is the one who deleted me on FB and I know he deleted me on MSN too. Wondering why he didnt block me though. Does it mean he would be open to me contacting him ?? I have always blocked people when I wanted to make sure they would not contact me anymore. Or maybe he just forgot. I know there is no point in over-analyzing the whole situation. For now I will keep doing NC. Will re-assess the situation in a few weeks (months ?!) when I REALLY feel better
  7. Feeling better today....slowly but surely I'm starting to put this whole story in behind me.. He is far away from me and he is with someone else. Even though I do not believe he is happy with that person, it is not my place to judge and it is his choice anyway....
  8. BrokenHeartUK, your post helped me too....just wondering how long you are planning to keep doing NC ? I feel like I will need much more than just 30 days to feel okay again. I still battle the urge to contact him everyday (successfully so far) so I am definitely NOT over him. There were a lot of unresolved issues between us and the questionning is still driving me nuts. Anyway....time heals all things as they say.
  9. I feel the same way. I was supposed to go on a date last week but I cancelled. I just couldn't bear the thought of having to do small talk with some other guy who I know would have tried to flirt with me, etc. Blah. I don't even enjoy the attention other guys might give me at this point. It will get better....it is just too soon for now...
  10. [/QUOT] At one point i said u go from crisis to crisis, always had bad relationships, and for once you get a good one. She just went quiet. I think it was the same for my ex but I never got round to talking about it with him. Anyway...the situation was rather complicated but I know that we could have been really happy together....he just wasnt willing to give up on some of the stuff he was doing before he met me...
  11. Only a couple months actually.....but I've known him for 2 years and we were friends. I fell really hard for him....I have only been this much in love once before in my life...so its really hard to let go...I would like another chance to try and make it work...
  12. At this point Im just hoping that some day I will wake up NOT thinking of him
  13. Wow, its been 3 weeks since I last contacted him. Seems like it was ages ago yet there is no way I will be done with this challenge in 9 days. I need another 30 days for sure....maybe more. Wondering what he is doing....
  14. Went out tonight.....had fun....but as soon as I came back home I started thinking of him, and wondering what he is doing and with whom, etc etc.
  15. Still thinking but not feeling too bad now. For some reason I think he will come to his senses and come back to me at some point (even if it's not the case, thinking that now helps me get through the days). Whatever happens happens...I need to move on with my life in any case.
  16. Just another day. Thinking of him....but there are more important things I have to deal with, like finding a new job. I need to get my own life back together first....
  17. Im so proud of myself for NOT having sent him the email yesterday. It would have showed him how much I still care.....the complete opposite of what I want him to think !!!! I still think of him and wonder what he is doing though....
  18. Thanks That actually made me laugh.....and you are RIGHT !!!
  19. Im really angry at him today......thinking about his pathetic and disrespectful behavior of the last couple weeks we were together. Why should I even want to be in touch with this loser again ? NC all the way !
  20. Yes, there are days when I feel Im over him and truly ready to move on...and then I start thinking about him and missing him and feeling very sad about the whole situation. Hopefully the down days will be less frequent as time passes
  21. This is exactly what Im thinking. I will make a point NOT to talk about him from now on. He doesnt exist anymore....
  22. Do you think it would be a good idea to try and STOP talking about the ex to other people ? I talked a lot about my ex to a friend of mine this afternoon and it seems that it brought back all kinds of memories and I started to feel quite sad and nostalgic again. So Im wondering...would making the effort NOT to talk about our ex's to other people during the 30 days of NC make sense ? Do you think it would help to heal quicker ?
  23. Just had a really long conversation with one of my ex's best friends in his home country (where we met and dated but where neither one of us is at the moment). I met her through him and if nothing else, Im so glad he introduced us. We are a lot alike even though we come from totally different backgrounds. No matter the culture of origin, people are people in the end Anyway. Talking with her made me think about him more. I wonder what he is doing, if he is happy, if he is thinking of me at all. But overall, Im okay.
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