life4journey

Sometimes I wonder you know .. does true friendship really exist? Now hearing a story such as yours, I guess it does, but like I said it's a rarity. Because there's so many factors that go into a friendship it's almost impossible to keep one for a very lengthy period of time. As I said, with this friend of mine, we cared about each other, but I think my lack of ability to hold a trust in someone becomes the major issue, especially when we're miles apart. If we live within a driving range, things may be different.

I agree with you up there .. "we're only humans .. ".

I suppose you guys are right... but just curious "thinkstoomuch", if you've known the person that long, wouldn't you have disagreements or arguments every now and then? Come on, we're all old enough to know there's no such thing as a smooth ride on any relationships. You have to go through those difficult moments to mature in the relationship. What do you guys do when you have major differences? You're very fortunate to have that kind of friendship, especially when you've known your best friend all your life!! That's a rarity in itself. Actually I really care a great deal about this friend, it's like finding your long lost sister. We just bonded from the very beginning we met .. it's just that having so much personal issues of my own, and to make things worst our friendship was a long distance one, so that compounded the whole complexities on its own. We're both just got so exhausted that we have said/done somethings that basically blew up the friendship and torn our feelings to pieces. If there's any chance of the friendship ever righting itself is if by miracle both of us drop our prides and commit to making the changes that caused the problems in the first place. Right now I just feel so hurt, everytime I think about my friend, I have tears swelling in my eyes.

Hi all .. how can a person save a faltering friendship? What does it take to save a long distance friendship. If both persons care about each other at one point, but after so much time and energy spent trying to make it work yet still not completely successful, what else can be done? Has anyone been in this situation before?

I think both sides should respect each other's privacy. Only if it's based on mutual agreement that those types of informations can be shared. Otherwise if one or the other feels pressured into giving something that they are not ready for, it'll create an unnecessary stress to the relationship.