cowgirlforget

So, should I confront my husband about other women paying attention to him? How should I handle that?

I have been married for almost a year now. We have been together for two and a half years. Well, before we married he cheated on me and I found out about it. I am in love with this man and decided to work it out. We went to counseling and I bought a book to read. Well, he is a very handsome man and my self-esteem is a little low. I can see where other women would find him attractive but don't they see the ring on his finger? He does not come off unmarried but there is a women at our work that seems to be smitten by him, even though she is involved with someone. Women know these things, so I am not stupid. Should I confront her? I trust my husband but I do not trust other women, period. How do I work through this? I mean, don't I have the right to question after what happened or should that be left in the past? Thanks for any advice. Karen

I kind of know how you feel but I have worked a lot on it. We are married and I still have an issue with it. It is a natural thing for men to look at other women. I don't know why but it doesn't mean that they love us any less. I am working so hard on that and my jealousy so that it doesn't ruin my marriage. You don't want to push him away just like I don't want to either. I hope that maybe we can help each other because I have a lot of trust issues and hope that I can be there for you. Talk to you soon. Karen