ProgramerBob

ok, i'm in highschool and i currently like this girl named "Cara", well, I asked this girl out on a tuesday. She said that her cousin might be coming into town that weekend and if she didi she wouldn't be able to go out, and that she would call me on thursday. Well she called me on thursday and i called her back after i got home. Well she said that her cousin wasn't coming into town, but she had to go to this thing with her parents, which is believeable because she'e gone their every weekend for the past couple years, so i asked her if she would be free on saturday. Well she went to go check and then i heard her mom tell her to get off the phone because she was grounded, well then "cara" said she was grounded and that she couldn't go out this weekend. About 2 minutes later her mom called me back, needless toi say that was kinda' freaky, anyways; she asked me what we planned on doing. So i told her i was just going to take her out to dinner and a movie. Then she said that sounded okay, and she would talk to ["Cara's"] Father and see if she could go, and that "Cara" would call me back the next day. Friday, came and "Cara" called me back and said that she had gotten grounded the saturday before for a week and that her dad said she was grounded until sunday, so we wouldn't be able to go out that weekend. Now it's over a week later and she hasn't said anything to me. I'm afraid that if she is interested that she thinks that I think that she isn't interested in me. Or isn't she interested and was just trying to reject me without actually doing it? they say it is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all, but when we love and are not accepted, the passion is our pain, without love we are empty. and without the passion we are dead.

First Off, I Just want to say Linkin Park Ist Da' --Bleep-- Second, Talk to her someday, ask her a question about how hard one of her classes is. when you're done tell her that you enjoyed talking to her and maybe you guys could get together sometime to talk. When you're around her notice if she bites her lip, shows you the palms of her hands, rubs her cheeks, twirls her hair or calls you by first and last name. These are all subconscious signs that she fancies ya'. Once your with her on a regular basis, after say after two months, Step back away from everything for three days and just have an objective view. Really listen to what she is saying and by the third day you'll know if she's for you. Now is the hardest part. You must LISTEN to what she says to you and if she acts differently when she's with you. If you're still confused or questioning yourself, wait longer. When all signs point to yes. Call her up on the next Tuesday. Ask her anything, it doesn't matter what just as long as it doesn't sound extremely cheesy. Remember the tone of her voice. Then ask her what she's doing this weekend. Listen to the tone of her response, is it the same? if it is she probably doesn't like you in that way, if it's better then it's probably yes. If she said nothin' then ask her if she'd like to get together Friday night and do somethin'. Now you didn't actually call it a date. if she says she just likes you as a friend. Tell her you just had to ask, because you couldn't go through the rest of your life wondering what if. If other people at school give you a hard time about asking her out on a date, just tell them either you didn't intend on it being a date, or that you think they're just jealous that they didn't ask first. Third, When you're around her notice if she bites her lip, shows you the palms of her hands, rubs her cheeks, twirls her hair or calls you by first and last name. These are all subconscious signs that she fancies ya'. To clarify the whole tuesday thing: You must ask her out for friday on a tuesday. In a woman's mind, monday is too early and wednesday is too late. This is what I did, and I learned that a friend of mine really did have the same feelings as I did for her. The tone of her response was dramatically better, and she was actually excited to hear me ask. Sure It took me 2 and a half years to get up the nerve to ask her out, but hey look where it got me. And 2 and a half years is better than the seven years it took me to tell my first girlfriend that I liked her. when you just can't manage to say the words just thin of what Kevin Spacey said in K-PAX: "The universe will expand then it will collapse back on itself, then it will expand again, it will repeat this process forever, everything will be as it is now, whatever mistakes you make this time around, you will live through on your next pass, every mistake you make you will live through again and again, forever.... so my advice to you is to get it right this time around because.... this time is all you have" This always makes me just come out and say what I mean because I hold it in for so long. There's something inside me that pulls beneath the surface Consuming, confusing This lack of self control I fear is never ending Controlling As Linkin Park Said It Best: "I can't seem/To find myself again My walls are closing in..... I've felt this way before/So insecure"

Want to get a definate yes? Of Course you do . Here's what you do. Step back away from everything for three days and just have an objective view. Really listen to what she is saying and by the third day you'll know if she's for you. Now is the hardest part. You must LISTEN to what she says to you and if she acts differently when she's with you. If you're still confused or questioning yourself, wait longer. When all signs point to yes. Call her up on the next Tuesday. Ask her anything, it doesn't matter what just as long as it doesn't sound extremely cheesy. Remember the tone of her voice. Then ask her what she's doing this weekend. Listen to the tone of her response, is it the same? if it is she doesn't like you, if it's better then it might be yes. If she said nothin' then ask her if she'd like to get together Friday night and do somethin'. Now you didn't actually call it a date. so if she says she just likes you as a friend. Tell her just had to ask, because you couldn't go through the rest of your life wondering what if. If other people at school/work give you a hard time, just tell them either you didn't intend on it being a date, or that you think they're just jealous that they didn't ask first. When you're around her notice if she bites her lip, shows you the palms of her hands, rubs her cheeks, twirls her hair or calls you by first and last name. These are all subconscious signs that she fancies ya'. You must ask her out for friday on a tuesday. In a woman's mind, monday is too early and wednesday is too late. This is what I did, and I learned that a friend of mine really did have the same feelings as I did for her. The tone of her response was dramatically better, and she was actually excited to hear me ask. 8)