TheDMan05

Well, basically, I was going to talk to a girl in my class so that I would have someone to talk to. But, it turns out I am too shy to even say "Hello"! I can't seem to just go up to her and start talking . I have thought about giving her a note saying that I am shy and asking her if I can talk to her. Because I think this will be the only way I can do this. It would also give her time to think about it and get used to it, instead of me unloading it all onto her face-to-face. (That last bit doesn't read the way I intended it to ) You're probably thinking "Why not try someone else first?", but she is, for whatever reason, the only person in college, or anywhere for that matter, that I would feel anywhere near comfortable talking to. And I am really getting upset being alone. As I said in the previous post, I do not want a 'relationship' with her.

I have the same toughts myself. But I don't let them bother me because I know that I am better than those people that sleep around and have one night stands. I also know that, even though I am extremely shy, one day I will meet someone that I can get close to. Whether I'm 30 or 40 by then doesn't matter, as long as I don't stoop to the level of people who would sleep with anything that moves, because they're DESPERATE for sex. By this I meen anyone that sleeps around because, in my opinion, they are all desperate. As for this 'someone' that likes you, go and talk to her. Even if you think she is unnatractive. It will give you the experience and the confidence to talk to people you do find attractive.

I am in the process of getting over my shyness and would like to read about other people's experiences of this. Whether you are in the process of, or are over your shyness. I would like to know the strategies that helped you or if you got over it naturally. I would also like to read about your experiences and feelings during this process, as they would give a great insight that would help me and others beat their shyness. Thanx

Hi, this is my first post. First, I have to tell you that I am very shy. I find it extremely difficult to talk to people, even if I know them well. I have read lots of ways to get over shyness but I still have a long way to go. In short I would like some advice and a bit of encouragement. I have decided to talk to a girl in my class at college. She is slightly older than me, she's 22, I'm 19. I am not looking for a 'relationship' with her. She seems like a very nice, accepting and, most importantly, patient person. We have spoken occasionally but we have never said much to each other. I want to tell her that I am shy and that I need someone to talk to. This is what I need advice on. Should I do this? How do you think she would react to this? My gut feeling is that this would be acceptable to her but I don't know for sure. If you think I should, or that it wouldn't hurt to try then please give me some encouragement. As I said I am very shy and I am not sure that I will be able to do it.