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Thanks all, I sat the exam and luckily what I had studied had come up. I’m confident I did okay!

Yes yes, I know. But you’ve probably all been there guys. I have a test tomorrow at 1:30pm. It is now 6:23pm where I am. I need to study three topics, preferably 4 but that’s no longer an option. I’ve studied one topic kind of, I wouldn’t be totally clueless if I had to answer it. The other two? Haven’t an idea. I’ve been to all these lectures but could never concentrate as I just hate the module ( Economic Law of the European Union). It’s also super dense. Is there any way I can do kind of okay at this point? I’m confident with all my other modules but this is definitely going to bring my average down. Any thoughts?

Thank you, this was very kind.

Starting anti depressants I had my first ever meeting with a therapist today who was really lovely and helpful, but recommended I get a referral to a doctor in order to get a prescription for anti depressants. She said these would be taken in conjunction with seeing her regularly, and only if it were something I was open to. I really think at this point in my life I need them and I’m really sick of feeling this way, but I’m very scared. I also feel a lot of shame. Can anyone share their experiences?

I do think I prompted that “break-up”. He told me he had never before considered it and I was the one who kept asking “is this it” etc until he said yes. I cannot express how well he treats me, besides from this. This made me trust that things were okay for him and that he’s happy. Which he still maintains he is. In comparison to other experiences I’ve had, he is by far the best boyfriend I’ve had. I’m guessing me looking for that reassurance was just me wanting attention because I was drunk or perhaps stemming from how things began, NOT because I feel he is a bad boyfriend etc.

I understand my pushing etc and initiating the conversation was definitely a sign of immaturity on my part, despite me having a couple drinks. I guess I was probably looking for validation or reassurance that I shouldn’t have been looking for. That was wrong of me. The whole situation was not particularly mature and I am very much willing to admit that. I’m serious in the sense that I like him and care about him very, very much. And I’m willing to do/try this. I’m not obsessed, nor am I looking to be with him “forever and ever”. That to me is juvenile and at this stage in the relationship where we’re at is fine. My concern is that I feel overall upset from that bar “incident” and I’m now unsure as to whether or not I can trust that he wants this, even though the conversation that followed reassured me. It may just be due to the nature of me being upset.

We’re both 20, so you’re not really too far off I understand my pushing etc and initiating the conversation was definitely a sign of immaturity on my part, despite me having a couple drinks. I guess I was probably looking for validation or reassurance that I shouldn’t have been looking for. That was wrong of me. The whole situation was not particularly mature and I am very much willing to admit that. I’m serious in the sense that I like him and care about him very, very much. And I’m willing to do/try this. I’m not obsessed, nor am I looking to be with him “forever and ever”. That to me is juvenile and at this stage in the relationship where we’re at is fine. My concern is that I feel overall upset from that bar “incident” and I’m now unsure as to whether or not I can trust that he wants this, even though the conversation that followed reassured me. It may just be due to the nature of me being upset.

We’re both 20, so I would say you’re not really too far off. I understand my pushing etc and initiating the conversation was definitely a sign of immaturity on my part, despite me having a couple drinks. I guess I was probably looking for validation or reassurance that I shouldn’t have been looking for. That was wrong of me. The whole situation was not particularly mature and I am very much willing to admit that. I’m serious in the sense that I like him and care about him very, very much. And I’m willing to do/try this. I’m not obsessed, nor am I looking to be with him “forever and ever”. That to me is juvenile and at this stage in the relationship where we’re at is fine. My concern is that I feel overall upset from that bar “incident” and I’m now unsure as to whether or not I can trust that he wants this, even though the conversation that followed reassured me. It may just be due to the nature of me being upset.

Hi all, and thanks in advance for any advice given. My boyfriend and I have only officially been together 3 months. In this time, I have been very happy with how things have progressed and really feel like he is a really good boyfriend. Prior to us getting together, we were friends who had conflicting feelings for one another - we both didn’t necessarily want a relationship but it just happened. He was very open with me about his insecurities as he was scared of “wasting my time”. I set this precedent as I didn’t want to start a relationship unless he was sure he liked me enough, alas, he did. Yesterday, we had our first “incident”. A conversation arose regarding his feelings. He told me he still wasn’t 100% and that he didn’t know if he was mature enough for this. I will admit this was prompted by my own drunken nagging. My feelings were incoherent as I was just visibly upset but not expressing anything (again, we were in a bar!) and at a certain point I began to ask “is this it, is this it” until he finally said “yes.” He was also crying ATP. Fast forward not even 2 minutes later, he revokes this statement as he said he did selfishly want to be with me, and would much rather be with me than not, but that my reaction and our emotional mess made him think I expected more from him - he has had doubts surrounding whether or not he should be doing or feeling more at this stage, ( he had intended to speak to me about this, just not right there and then ) and my inexplicable crying, pushing, etc confirmed those doubts, so he broke up with me for all of 5 minutes. We spoke afterwards about these doubts in detail. All of what he said was fine - we’re at an early stage, we’re happy, but we’re not in love or planning long into the future. I was comfortable with the conversation we had as I feel we’re on the same page, only difference is he’s insecure about where he should be at and was worried for my happiness, thinking I would want more etc, whereas I’m not stressed about how peaceful and non-intense everything is. My issue is that after the “break-up”, I find it hard to believe this is what he really wants. He told me he had no prior intentions to break up and that he’s happy day to day. I asked him 100 times over if he did really want to proceed and he said yes, but I can’t get the incident out of my head. The conversation as a stand alone was completely okay, but coupled with the 2 minute “break up”, I am questioning if he really does feel enough for me or that if we should be in love at this stage. I was happy with how natural things seemed to be going, but now I’m just waiting for him to really break up with me out of nowhere. It really hurt me and I’m not sure how to get over it. Should I be concerned? Or is this something I can get over?