Kathryn657xx

Well done on your honesty firstly, it's hard to admit your own wrong-doings. Maybe put yourself in her situation and picture her the one who made an emotional connection with someone else and persued this for a few weeks. What would you need from her to feel safe again? How would you feel? She is more than likely feeling very self-conscious now, like she isn't good enough. Maybe start with this, compliment her, let her know why you chose her and what you love most about her. Don't mention the children, this is probably not what she needs right now, she needs to feel wanted regardless of being a mother. Hope this helps.

To start, being cheated on is so difficult and i am sorry you had to go through that. However, i do think the cheater doesn't need to be made to feel guilty - this feeling will come at some point without any outside influence. I think people can sometimes "compartmentalise" and maybe this is what she has done. Instead of owning what she has done and how she has hurt you - she boxes these feelings. No feelings can stay boxed forever. She might get cheated on later on in life and perhaps then she will truly feel the guilt she sunconsciously buried? Move on - you are not at fault and don't waste your life reliving this event 🙂