WinstonDog

Thank you all for the comments. As a starter I have provided the email address of the girl concerned, and encouraged my partner to speak to her directly, in order to hopefully satisify herself that i am telling the truth about the extent of our intimacy. I am also now actively looking for a therapist, and intend to invite my partner. I appreciate that we are currently in the 'eye of the storm' and emotions are up in the air. I can only hope as things settle down, she will believe that I am doing my absolute up-most to make this right. If you dont mind i'll keep you posted on how things pan out. Plus, it helps me if I can talk about these things.

Hi, This is my first post so go easy. I have been in a great relationship for the last 8 years, and I have two young children aged 2 and 4. I love my children and my partner dearly. But, and it's a big but. I have been unfaithful. Five weeks ago i went on a 'lads' holiday. On this trip I established an emotional connection to a girl. On the last day of the trip we kissed. For about five weeks after we texted, a very little bit of minor sexting (I mean minor), and then things fizzled out. I felt guilt throughout this process. My partner found the messages. I deleted them before she could read them through pure panic. She has persistently wanted to know what they were about. I lied at first, but in the end the guilt got the better of me and I confessed. Understandably she's really upset, and feels like I have crossed a line and is unlikely to be able to forgive (we have literally just finished talking). I am obviously devastated. My partner has asked me to think of things I can do to try and make her able to trust me again. I'll be honest, I'm a little lost on this. My initial thought is to offer to go on some form of counselling to better understand trust, and improve my emotional intelligence which i think could be beneficial for me, as i do struggle emotionally. I know this is a journey I need to go on, but would be grateful if anyone can offer any advice. thank you,