DavidStone

Yes, same one. Yes we married quicky because of her legal status. Yes we both speak spanish. We were planning to go to Colombia whenever she is able to travel but for now I only know her family via video chat. Thanks for your advice. Her issue seems chronic, and I want to help but I also have my own issues I gotta deal with. I am doing my best but it wears me out to fight about the same thing every other day.

One year ago I met this Colombian girl [Age 28] and me [38]. At first we started going out, then we became best friends, then things started to get more serious, so we started dating. At first everything seem fine but in our dates I started noticing jealousy episodes from her out of nowhere. For example she accussed me of checking out the waitress , and I looked at her trying to figure what was going on. This happened several times over the course of our relationship. She even admitted she has a serious problem and I told her I was gonna help her get through this and help her fight her insecurities. On our last vacation we had arguments related to jealousy as well. She would get mad because I am friendly to other people, specially females when we go to places. But that is my personality ( I am like that with everyone) and I respect her and I would never flirt with females. Anyways, regardless of everything I love her and I proposed on that same vacation, it was bittersweet, but here we are one year later married. We just married 2 months ago, but things are now getting out of control. Ive had panic attacks because I don't know to help the situation anymore. We are on the bridge of divorce, because any little interaction I have with females she doesn't know, and If I am being friendly in any way, she would get very upset and accuse me of things. For example, our last major fight was like this; So my parents are elderly ,so they have home health services, meaning there is always different nurses coming by to my parents house to take care of them. Since my parents dont speak english, I am always in contact with these nurses so I can help translate and manage appointments for my parents. Well, the last nurse that called, my wife recognized from last time she called, and she started getting paranoid that I am being disrespectful and unfaithful because I am friendly to this nurse that I've only talked to a few times, So we had a very serious verbal fight where we yelled at each other. Am I doing something wrong? How do I help her? Has anyone had this happened before? Please help, I love her and I dont want to divorce but I am human and I am emotionally exhausted. As a guy, I know I am not perfect, but If I am doing something wrong please let me know. [Also important note: her whole family is in Colombia, and I am the only family she has here]

Hi, thank you so much for your response. Not being defensive here but I want to point out a few things. You might be partially right. Love might take longer in some cultures. But the girl and I are of latino culture, so the intensity is a bit different. Also we are both conservative Christians, but she is christian, I am catholic. And as far as jewelry goes, latin girls depending which country, appreciate gifts at the beginning of a relationship like asking them to be exclusive (if you do that in the US it would be weird I guess lol. But regardless of these things, I gotta admit I might of been a bit intense but not to the point for her cutting me out. I think the main reason it did not work out are differences in faith and values.

Yes, I think that is the best thing to do. Any thoughts on how to slowly cut her off without being hurtful? Just stop responding?

Hey Thank you for you response. We've seen each other for the last 2 months. We meet thru Uber since she was one of my passengers. She is 27, I am 35. Yes unfortunately, you are right. I think its the best thing to do. I wish her the best and I wish with all my heart we could be friends but I think it will hurt too much sooner or later.

I've been dating this Christian girl (I am catholic) for a few weeks, we had an amazing connection from the start. I've never felt this strong about someone in years, and she told me she feels the same way, we've been hanging every week. Anyways last week, She took me out for my BDay, we had an amazing time, then I told her we should see each other again on sunday. I was getting ready to ask her to be my GF, I even bought her a heart gold necklace. I text her the day before to ask her the plan for sunday. She never texted me back, so I got a bit upset hurt due to the circumstances. I asked her what was going on then she said she needed a break to focus on her spirituality. We've been texting but she seems more distant. I talked to her last night and we had a great conversation, she told me she doesnt know what she wants and that she wished I was more spiritual or aligned with her beliefs. I told her I would be very supportive whatever decision she makes. I have a strong feeling she is seeing or talking to other guys, she never said we should be only friends because I think she doesnt want me to get hurt. Is it best to let it go and just be friends? How do you become friends with someone you love? If she had doubts about me, I dont wanna be in that position because it makes me feel I am not good enough. Normally we hang out on the weekends, if she doesnt hit me up this weekend to hang does that mean she is not longer interested? Do I need to be more distant? Please help