I really want to say thankyou to everone who replied to my story....
I live in a foreign country where I am still struggling to learn the language and have few friends that I see in a social capacity. THese arent the kind of things that I can talk about at with my coworkers, and my friends and family back home dont really want to hear it as I can probably imagine. Honestly the advice that was given here has really helped.
Quote from Ilse:
I guess what worries me most here, is that I get the feeling that in fact you DON'T feel like you should be with the person you are involved with right now. I could be wrong, but I read mostly negative things about him.
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This is precisely one of my main worries.....has my own insecurity and depression caused me to black out all the positive things about him....like the fact that he adores, respects, admires, helps, and trusts me *(to extents that no previous lover ever has before)....and allowed myself only to see the negative traits in him....(like that he cant spell, is bald, wont buy a new pair of jeans, PDA etc....) I think I sound ridiculous saying these things, but I really feel them.
I guess this is what leads me to worry about mental conditions like schizophrenia. I find that Im constantly at war with myself. One minute I can feel like letting go of all these nitpicky concerns and giving in to letting myself fall for him again but then I see one little thing I dont like and think "this WILL NEVER WORK!!!"
Ive been on this fence in many aspects of life before he came along and I fear the road ahead inevitably leads to insanity. PEople already notice it. And once some one makes a comment about me acting weird or saying crazy things I feel the need to always live up to their expectations. ANd then theres the constant parnoia....that people are talking about me or judging me. I guess I feel that they would be judging me badly becasue of my moodswings, job performance, occasional scruffy apperance, and volatile attitude.
Anyways, I wont bother anyone anymore with these problems. They just seem to spew out thicker and thicker with every line. ITs not fair to you or myself to lay my nueroticism on you and taking advice from anyone who will listen is probably not the help that I need.
I just want to say that in the responses that I got I really admired some of your overall familiarity with hardship in life and knowing how to interpret obstacles in life. I am so baffled.