barryboy

Well, thats me just back from my holiday. Still think about her everyday, it still hurts! If times a healer then i guess im just going to have to wait ages to feel better, cos thats nearly a month now, since i got dumped! I really thought that by going on holiday and having fun, which i did have, would have made me be over her, but i cant get her out of my head at all! its startin to annoy me, as there is nothin i can do about it! any suggestions? thanks in advance!

i said that to her, that its obvious that i cared for her more than she did me if she cant even do me the decency of meetin me! it was her that suggested meetin in the first place! im actually runnin out of time to meet her as i leave for spain in the early hours of saturday morning, so i might just phone her. i will be difficult tho, if i was too hear or see her i dunno if that would put me on a downer for my holidays! i could always just leave seeing her till i come back, hopefully tanned, refreshed and over her. Then she may see whats shes missing at this party weve both to go the week we get back!! thats the plan anyways!

she has since replied sayin, its not that she doesnt want to see me, and that i should know that she cared for me, its just she doesnt have time to go for a drink or anything. but she said she definetly wants to meet to remove any akwardness. i dunno, i would be happy to meet her before i go away just to get sum answers, as i feel that if i dont get them b4 i go then i wont when we get back! confused!

not yet, but she said that shes working 12-8, everyday this week! she normally does 3-8, so she will be at work just now! i just feel, patience that if i dont meet her then everything will be swept under the carpet when i next see her in 3 or 4 weeks time! what do u suggest? i can see her not replyin actually, until friday nite, sayin have a nice holiday meaning thereforeeee itl be 2 late to see her!

just received a message from my ex(it feels hard sayin that). She said sorry ive taken so long to get back to you, i dont think i will be able to meet before you go on holiday cos im doing a lot of over time! she also said would it be alright to meet when we come back?. I dont know what to do. I would feel a lot better by now, a week and a half after she dumped me if she hadnt got in touch with me at all! Why would she txt me sayin she wanted to meet and then change her mind? I just feel that if i dont meet her then before i go then we will never be how we were, ever again. As friends i mean! I replied sayin, that it would have made things a lot easier for me going on holiday with peace of mind knowing that we could continue our friendship and that i surely deserve an hour or so, if i meant anything to her at all! thoughts anyone? thanks in advance!

hey man, how did things go, when you went to see her? my ex hasnt got back to me, even though it was her that made the initial contact about meeting! im still so gutted man!

the latest wif my situation is that she hasnt yet txt me to arrange a day/time to meet. I dont know what to do? i leave for ibiza, early sat mornin, so that leaves us only tue, wed or thu nite! i kinda wish i could just say to her, we'll just leave it, cos then i would have closure. But i kinda want to see her, because if i dont then it will have been over a month since we broke up by the time we get back from our holidays and then it will feel more difficult. I also need to see her to get exam papers that she has of mine, for my exams in early august! i dont know why she hasnt got back to me, if she was going to do this why did she send the original message about wanting to meet up? any thoughts?

thanks patience, a great read! just off to a party the now, so heres hopin that will take my mind off it! keep in touch!

it is so difficult, like ive been thinkin if things turn out that we dont get the opportunity to meet before we go on our respective holidays then it will have been over a month without seeing her! i remember i was really down at the fact that i wouldnt see her for 17 days, when we were still going out, as was she, now it seems everything we had together doesnt mean anything to her at all! i really cant shake off this disapointment at all! i cant even be bothered thinkin about meetin other girls on holiday to be honest, ive never fealt as bad as this ever!

thanks for your help patience, it seems as though our stories are pretty similar! i just hate feeling this bad, i feel as though i dont even know her anymore and thats what cuts me up the most.

yeah, maybe its just her. its interesting that i can remember that we had a conversation before we started going out with a group of uni friends, myself and her included. The subject was heartbreak, and i can clearly remember for sum reason that she said she'd never once fealt heartbreak in a relationship, and by the way she said it, you could tell it was true. But she has had a lot to deal with in other areas of life, thats what i was meaning when i said we shared very personal things together. I dont feel any anger towards her or any hatred at all. Even when my friends say bad stuff about her trying to make me feel better it just feels worse. Everything thereforeeee, rests on this meeting! Ive left the ball in her court to get back to me, i dont know i should play it once we meet, any ideas? act if it doesnt bother me, or let her know how much she has hurt me?

yeah, i hope i can, its just difficullt. I think im taking it particularly badly as we had told each other absolutely everything, very personal things that i know for a fact would have been difficult for her to tell anyone, never mind a boyfriend, who was meant to be serious. so many things just dont fit! added to the fact is that i feel so alone, my parents left for a two week holiday in spain, the day before we broke up! my friends have been great but i dont think they knew how close i was to this person. I would tell her everything before i even told my friends! It makes me sad to think that i am suffering all this pain, while it doesnt seem to be affecting her at all! i feel like i know longer know her and its been less than a week since i last saw her! still confused!

i wish you all the luck in the world man, heres hoping things work out for both of us. Im going to meet her sometime next week, before friday anyway, i dont know if i should go in "all guns blazing" or just take it easy. Thanks that website looks good! I feel your pain man, good luck and let me know how you got on wif your girl!

Thanks man! just been speaking to a boy from uni, who said she did the exact same thing to her last boyfriend, so maybe she just doesnt want someone in her life. I really thought she was the one! I suppose that maybe once we go back to uni, there will always be something, cos its the first time weve both gone out wif someone from uni! who knows, i think im prepared to wait, but i cant stand the thought of her being with someone else! maybe i need to hook up with someone on holiday to make me feel a bit happier!

yeah, u are making feel slightly better thanks. ive since heard that she always said she didnt want a serious relationship, maybe she always had that in her head? who knows? theres a party that we were invited to the week after we come back from our respective holidays, right now i feel as though i want her back, im hopin i dont when the party comes around. Or if i do then try to play it cool or try and make her jealous. i get the feeling from what ive heard from others that she is quite indecisive, and often goes back to her ex partners. i dont know if its just wishful thinking, but i get the feeling that this wont be the last encounter that we have, so i will just have to bide my time, and hope i can cheer up in ibiza, which is only 9 days away!

Exactly, im losing a person who i would talk to everyday even long before we started goin out! it was her that did all the chasing as well! the txt she sent me said, i think it would probably be a gd idea to meet before we both go on holiday, dont want hings to be akward with us! sorry things turned out this way, i didnt plan to hurt you! i thought i wanted to be serious as well but i realised i dont and it would be worse if i had waited any longer! What gets me is the serious bit? how do u define serious? i ws just having a blast with someone who meant a great deal to me! she even said the last time i saw her( ) that it was so good that we acted the same way we did when we were just friends! Dunno if she wants to meet for her benefit or mine? but i think i would like to get her to answer my questions, whether she does or not is a different matter?

hey man, this may not be of any use to you but i am going through exactly the same thing. The only difference is mine was only about two months but it seemed a lot longer. we both told each other we loved each other and met each others families! at least you r girl had the courage to do it face to face, mine called on saturday there to say that she didnt want a serious relationship! it so hard to take isnt it? i want her back more than anything aswell just like you! i would appreciate any help on the subject of winning someone back! sorry to hijack your thread man, but at least you aint suffering alone!

Its really hard because we were like best friends before this at university we would call each other all the time, then after a class nite out we kissed and then started going on dates. i asked her to be my girlfriend and was delighted that she said yes! she even told my best pal, that she had never felt this way about anyone. Last week i took her away for a couple of days and she was talking about how she wanted to txt me when i go to ibiza and shes in greece( in just over a weeks time). After we got home from our few days away she said i dont want to go to work, cos i dont want to leave you! then two days later, bang its over! my only reckoning is that whilst out last friday she maybe kissed or worse slept with someone else, and had a change of heart about us?

Her reasoning was that she didnt want to be in a serious relationship just now. However, i do not believe that the relationship was "serious" it was a healthy, normal relationship. It wasnt as if I was pestering her or anything and the fact that we live a fair distance apart meant that we saw each other perhaps two or three times a week at the most. I am of the opinion that it is something to do with the fact that we are both about to go on separate holidays with our friends, and perhaps she doesnt want to have a boyfriend when she is on holiday. It is strange though, as she was talking about what presents to buy for me only last week? I am in two minds whether to meet her or not, if i do then i can ask her in greater detail why? but i also feel she wants to meet for herself to feel better and not for me. Finally, i also feel that if i go then i will miss her even more afterwards. help needed, for this lonely boy! Barry

Firstly, im distraught, ive never felt so low in my entire life! There were no clues whatsover that this was around the corner. Secondly the fact that she did it by phone made it even worse! She has since txt me sayin she would like to meet soon so that things arent akward with us, when we return to university! I would dearly love to have her back, but it seems unrealistic. any thoughts? Thanks Barry