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ok well.. i know I saw a car, but i mean, i also saw more than that.. i just dont like announcing it and then people think im a spy or something. But, I am for sure that they are together, just trust me when I say that. And thanks to everyone whos been replying to my post so far.. Its helping me out a bit

I really appreciate the advice... Im with my buddies as much as possible right now..

ya your right.... ill see what i can do. as per now we arent talking so i cant really do that anyway. I have to wait until she calls me and is ready to talk again. Im torn whether i should email her back also... you see, the girl was so madly in love with me for 6 years, that I think shes going to open her eyes soon and realize she doesnt want to be with this guy, its just a fling.. I think..

there is nothing more that I want to do, than to email her the name of the guy. It would KILL her inside the way shes been killing me inside. But i cant do that to her. I care about the girl so much and shes so special to me i cant do that to her.

but you see... I think the only reason shes resorting to this lie, is because shes afraid to lose me forever... ? and if she finds that she does want to be with me, then maybe i can build trust with her if we got back together

but the funny part is, that I love her so freaking much.. and I have for 6 years. Its almost as if im making myself believe that shes having a fling with this guy, and needs to get it out of her system and realize that maybe I AM the one for her after experimenting. You gotta remember too, shes never had another boyfriend in her life but me. 6 years together... She has known nobody else. I can see where her curiosity comes from. I just dont want to screw anything up right now or start any fights

I know because my friend lives right near her. When i picked him up one night to go to the gym last week, i saw a car pull up to her house and he went inside and met her. Not that im trying to spy, but I saw it. I also know through some people and it is confirmed that she was with him on the long weekend that just passed, and together in a cuddly kind of way. I even know the guys name.. its sad.

she sent me an email yesterday and I dont know whether or not to respond and what to make of the email. But here are some quotes of what she said to me: "i know i have been horrible to you. i feel horrible, and i feel like i may be hated or resented. i am sorry. i really dont know if this is for now or forever. i really dont, but i am spending alot of time contemplating to myself what i want. some days i know, some days i dont, and some days i just want it how it used to be" "i just want you to know, i dont not think about you. i mean i do love you, you do have my heart. i just don't know what to do with my mind." "also, i want to make you know that there isn't anyone else. i know you have been trying to get someone to say there is, but there isn't" (shes lying to me with that statement, because i know theres another guy for sure) "i do wish i could hug you because your arms were my safe haven" "i hope you don't hate me, and will take this for what it is, and just know i am not trying to forget you i am just trying to figure things out. i know you are there for me always, love ya" So now I dont know if I should respond to this email. I have already written a response but im scared to send it. I dont know what to do. I want the girl back and I want her to want me back. any ideas? thanks for everything so far everyone.

apparently shes totally wanting to just move on in life. what is the best way I can cope with this loss? Im feeling such a depression... and im having nightmares of her and this other guy together.....

today i was told that my ex got really sad last night. Apparently she was driving home and something hit her mind and she had a really bad cry in her car. She got home and had a shower and felt refreshed and sorta told herself that its a fresh start. What does this mean? I wonder if she will experience these sad moments now that i havent been contacting her? I wont act on knowing that she had this sad moment.. but im just throwing this out there to see what everyone thinks. Im still really sad, havent gotten much better at all....

what about the rebound theory? whats that all about? How can this possibly last with the other guy?

I know I shouldnt get my hopes up... and ive been trying so hard to let go. Its been over a week so far and i havent really gotten any better at all. I try to distract myself but at the end of the day I just come home and cry myself to sleep, and I wake up every hour or two thinking about her and how much I truly believe we can be happy together again. Its so hard not being able to talk to her. I feel like ive been deserted after 6 years. She told me she loved me when she broke up with me, and she was crying too. Im just so confused at all of this....

Hi everyone... its been a week since my girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me. I am 21 and started dating her at the age of 16. We are the same age. Ive been a complete wreck all week and I need to listen to what some people have to say about my situation. So here I am. My girlfriend has always been madly in love with me and we have been the cutest couple for almost 6 years with plans for a great future together forever. Around christmas time of this year I was being a little distant with her because i started getting curious about the single life and such.. it lasted about a month until she said to me she wanted space since she couldnt take the fact I was being distant. I immediately snapped out of my curiosity of the single life and asked her to start fresh with me, and I immediately realized I want her forever and for sure, and that I dont care about any other women or the single life. So after a few days time off she called me and we started fresh. Since then its been about 4 months together and I have been so in love with her and I have pretty much acted as the perfect boyfriend, doing everything for her and making her feel completely loved. She, however has felt distant about half the time, and hasnt quite been her old self that she was all the previous years. She then went away for a weekend with one of her girl friends to a cottage, and she came back acting very strange. I let it go for a few days until last friday I asked her what the matter was. She then broke up with me and told me she cant be the same with me anymore and cant feel romantic with me anymore, etc... She denies that she met someone else, but I just found out that she did. In fact she met this guy around christmas time when I was being distant with her, and slowly developed some feelings for him over the past few months of being with me. then she met up with him at the cottage recently when she was there, and her girl friend I think advised her to break up with me and see how things could be with this new guy. She doesnt know that I know about him, i found out through un-connected friends and stuff. I am sooooo soo devastated. I love the girl to death and I think 6 years is a long time to just throw away. We had so many great plans for the summer and for the next few years. Ive been so completely depressed and having nightmares of seeing her and this other guy together. The first few days after she broke up with me, i tried contacting her like crazy. sending her emails and love letters stating all the things we had together and what we have to look forward to in the future and to please not throw it all away. I was then told I need to totally give her space. So its been nearly a week with no contact. I am so desperately am waiting for her phone call, and this has been the hardest week of my life. I am so tempted to email her again and tell her we need to be together. What do I do? what should I expect? what is going through her mind?? We always told eachother we were eachothers soul mate and meant to be together always. Thats why we lasted the 6 years that we did. I love her so unconditionally, that I dont even care that she had interest with this other guy and left me for him. Guys help... similar experiences? What may happen? Can she really let go of our relationship that fast?