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Thanks for your advice Shes2smart it is much appreciated. x

Your right I never found out from him. It was someone he worked with who said to me " Doesn't he look good for his age" and me thinking he was 35 and looked about 35 said "well how old is he?" and the reply was "41" When I questioned him about this he was angery and got stroppy, so I left. (and should not of gone back!!!!) but did and it was then he told me about all his kids. Should of got out then, but instead Ive let it go this far.........................

OK Not looking good but thanks to you all for your response, please keep the advice coming I think I need this to get my strengh back and see things how they are. I think he has over powed me a lot into thinking his way, I thought I was such a strong person!!! He is very good with words and twist's things to make him seem like the poor soul in all this. I think he is trying to infulence me and control me but in a very clever way, he is quite well off and promising me all the best things in life. Please keep your views coming. (Im so pleased I found this web site)

Need advice. Im a 25 year old female with no children. I meet this really nice man and he tole me he was 35 and had two kids. I later found out that he is 41 with 5 kids all by different women, to make matters worse his eldest daugther is 20 and his youngest is just a year old. He told me he lied about his age and situation because he knew I would run a mile and he wanted me to get to know him for him and not judge him by his situation, he was right because by the time i found out the truth I was to deep in the relationship to just walk away. But I don't know if I can handle it all, he pays for all his kids but does not have much contact with them and at times its easy to push it to the back of my mind and forget all about it............... Then something will happen and all my fears will be back. I worry that when his youbger children get older and want more contact with there father I wont be able to handle it. His youngest was the only planned one and his mother left and took there son with her, he was and still is upset by this not about losing her but losing his son, so I know one day soon when he is ready he will fight to see his son. He seems so in love with me and talks about the connection we have and how all he ever wants is to settle down and have a family. Im scared because this is all I have wanted but as much as I like him (Im fighting not to fall in love) I have always said I would never get involved with a man with kids and to be honest would laugh at women who got involved with older me and now her iam in that situation. I know you can't help who you fall in love with and eveything else in our relationship is perfect but his age and kids is a real concern of mine. Why did he get all these women pregnant? Why is he not married at 41? Is there something wrong with him? He tells me all the women had the children to try and keep him and that he has never been married because he has never meet the right person, till now................ ME! Does it all sound a bit strange, what should I do? Any advice would be great. Thanks. x