its_kathie

Well, there will be NC, however, on Friday I am scheduled to go get ALL my things. With a girlfriend of course. Any advice. Other than the obvious: dignified and classy.

Update: the new reason (a phone call to him this afternoon) he wants his space--he said he is seeing someone else. Man, does that answer all the unknows. What now!!

David, Cross that bridge when you come to it. you are 'projecting' hope. let's live in reality. When and if that happens, you heart will be at a different place, or the same. We don't know what the future holds. k? kathie

David, Cross that bridge when you come to it. you are 'projecting' hope. let's live in reality. When and if that happens, you heart will be at a different place, or the same. We don't know what the future holds. k? kathie

He says he loves me and is confused. Our relationship touched his heart and soul and he is scared. We have been together for 8 months and it has been energtic, fun and growing. Now he (all of a sudden) he needs his space. I picked up all my belongings but the "big" stuff. That will be this Friday. He says he loves me, his life hasn't been the same since i have been out of it, and he has wanted to call. Do I call him???

He says he loves me and is confused. Our relationship touched his heart and soul and he is scared. We have been together for 8 months and it has been energtic, fun and growing. Now he (all of a sudden) he needs his space. I picked up all my belongings but the "big" stuff. That will be this Friday. He says he loves me, his life hasn't been the same since i have been out of it, and he has wanted to call. Do I call him???

Thanks for your question. I pondered on it and realize--He is scared that I will abandon him. HE brought up the marriage talk about April 4th. I told him I don't know where I stand on marriage and that I will have to get back with him. He told me he didn't see the importance in a piece of paper. I somewhat agreed; however, I was unsure. So I gave it a good 24 hrs of good thought. Got back to him that night, and told him we may be at a crossroads. I told him I wanted the natrual progression of a relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. He knows because of my schooling that that would mean YEARS. I just told him that I didn't want a "girlfriend" status in 10 years. He said he didn't have a problem with any of that. However, two weeks later and pleanty of "festering" he became conflicted. We talked a bit about it on Sunday and he agreed that it was fear of abandonment. His past wives have left him of other men. So yes, he has baggage...but who doesn't after 30 something.

Well, his life is falling apart. He lost the job he loved; was put on disability for a year; his 15 son is smoking and drinking. We have been together for 8 months. We laugh, talk, play and just "mesh" well together. Then one day the bomb went off--he got scared and said he needs some time to think. He said our relationship has touched his soul, he has never felt like this before, and he feels inferior to me: I'm a pre-law student getting exceptional grades. He's a mechanic (off duty now). I love him, love him, and love him some more. He told best friend that I was the best woman he has ever met. His children love me and want us to marry. He said he's scared and now he is obviously running. We agreed to "step back" for a month. But I find the attrition too painful. I gave him a book on day 7 of the split "He's Scared/She's Scared", and I call Sunday to tell him I would be over to pick up my things on Friday. Mind you, this was a very serious relationship. Full of I love you's, "when are coming home", talking about our dream home. He even loaned me his BMW after a car accident destroyed my car. This breakup happened overnight!! WHAT DO I DO!! I want him back. He know's I love him, but I have remained "classy" and dignified through this whole process. Just last Sunday he told me his life hasn't been the same since I have been gone; he told me he wanted to call a million times, and he told me he loved me--HELP