SeaBisquit

Why do guys do this crap??? I have dated this guy over the last few years. Strictly on a friends basis. He knew that I was in love with someone else and I knew he just came out of a bad realtionship and didn't want to get serious with anyone. We agreed to go out as very good friends. I thought it was really cool to have a guyfriend to talk to. I started dating other guys and he was told about it and he got really pissed off. Now he won't speak to me or even answer my phone calls. I found out that he has been dating several other girls too. So why is he so mad at me???

thanks spunkykatt

lol, i didn't get any money. and yeah it took a whole lot of courage!

Why do you guys say NC to everything? I don't understand that.

ok everybody. This is why I broke up with him. He cheated on me, then blamed me. He goes out to strip clubs, spends all his time and money there. Then tells me not to worry about it. He tells me that he won't go there anymore. To try to get me back. I go back to him and find out he is still going to strip clubs. I ask him not to go there and he tells me it is just guy fun.

no I know you didn't mean that happycat. I'm not offended by what anyone says. I value others opinions.

Why do some of you see it as revenge? I don't think I intended to get even. I was just trying to prove a point. I wasn't trying to make him jealous by giving his friends lap dances. It meant nothin to me. they meant nothing to me. That is my point nothing means what it is nothing.

I don't feel that I have lowered myself especially to his level. If you have read my posts my bf cheated on me and then said it was my fault that he cheated. We have broken up several times and get back together, I don't even know what kind of title you would give our relationship. A crazy one probably.

Ta ree saw

See I wouldn't be uncomfortable with it. If it really was a guy nite out thing with him but it isn't. He spends more time at the strip club then he does with me. He spends half his paycheck there. it's become a routine.

yes well we all do foolish things. I'm not ashamed of it, and I didn't see it as revenge. It's what he says to me all the time.. it means nothin.

Great. see i don't understand guys logic at all.

DN

how would I have proven the right point? he's a jerk.

I'm really not ashamed by it. at least right now i'm not. i feel i have proven my point. he can do with it what he wishes.

yangs to the worlds

that is what most of them will say tho. I am speaking of my situation only tho. I'm not knocking anyone else on the forum. some people aren't bothered by it. I am tho, my bf goes there alot and spends lots of money there. then he says he has no money to do anything with me.

thankyou Hope

i'm having a hard time dealing with this crap. i could handle it if he was going out with the guys every so often. But it has become a ritual.

the point is to guys going out to strip clubs and hanging out with the boys and getting lap dances from strippers means absolutely nothing but guy fun.

guy fun means seeing women naked. it"s not guy fun to spend a nite with your gf. only guy fun to a guy when the girl is naked.

DN,

no i don't think he wants me now. doesn't matter tho because his friends do.

he got pissed... so i said i thought it means nothin to see girls naked serving beer. that's what i did. I served his friends beer topless. whats the difference?

Seeing how it means absolutely nothing when my bf continuously goes out with his buddies to strip clubs. i decided it would mean absolutely nothing if I strip down to nothing at a party he was having with a few of his friends. I gave a few lap dances and had a great time.

LOL, I like the title of your thread. Sorry that you have to put up with such a jerk at your work place. The best thing to do is ignore him and not let him get to you. I'm sure other people think he is a jerk too.

I think it must be me that has the problem or I am the one that has all the issues. I can never get a guy to commit or even spend any quality time with me. The last guy I had a relationship with spent all his free tima on the computer and maybe said about ten words to me in a day. I would ask him if we could go out and do something and he would always reply that he didn't feel like it. And the guy before that compared me to his ex and called me alot of names. It must be me not them becuase they think there perfect.

I believe that all relationships have disagreements it is hard for two people two agree on everything. However, for someone to constantly critisize or humiliate you in public is not consider normal behavior.

ok so here are the little things we agrue about.

1. we go grocery shopping I buy the wrong flavor of juice. I was suppose to buy pineapple. I bought bananna-pineapple.

2. I make him coffee. the coffee has coffee grinds in it.

3. he doesn't like how i use the tube of toothpaste.

4. he doesn't like the smell of my hairspray

5. I walk to slow

6. I talk to much

there are alot more but those are just some examples...

LOL.... no Scout I haven't but I apreciate your good humor!

Is it normal to have alot of little agruments in a relationship over little things that don't mean much?

I would hate to be in your shoes. Don't feel the need to impress, he might not be worth impressing.