ForgetMeNot

Hi and thanks all for the replies. Firstly, no, I wasn't aware he'd been to link removed looking for highschool friends, he didn't tell me. I didn't know anything of it until I found the emails in his email programme and there are no other emails in there belonging to other friends either, just her. But then she may have been the only one to reply. I wasn't going to mention it, but my husband has had affairs in the past and so I guess that is why I snoop on him, I still don't trust him 100% and it's why I suppose, I'm worrying over this contact he has with the ex. Even though it appears harmless, how can I be sure it won't lead to more? He did think a lot of this particular ex at one time, she was his 'first love', they have a history and were at one time engaged to be married themselves, another reason why I'm feeling insecure about the whole thing

He went seeking her at link removed, thereforeeee he initiated the contact. He was also the one to suggest they email. I know this because the ex mentioned it in her first mail to him. This kinda worries me too, that he initiated contact, she did not.

Hi azveganchik. Yes, that's a good idea to sit him down and perhaps tell him that he can come to me and discuss anything with me. He should know that anyway. He might then hopefully come clean and open up about this relationship. I was thinking that perhaps he hasn't mentioned it, because it is something he may see as being trivial and he doesn't want to worry me. I'm not going to mention that I know of his emailing with the ex however. I've decided instead to monitor it. That way I can watch for signs that it might progress further and that's when I would step in.

Thanks ShuShu. I can understand that he'd be curious about someone who was once a part of his life, it is natural for us to wonder about what happened to those people from our past. He did after all have an eight year relationship with this woman. But if he was just curious about her, then one or two emails would have been sufficient to catch up on things surely? This correspondance is still going and has been for four months - that's the part that has me beat. ?

I think that perhaps they can cheat or have an inappropiate relationship, without the spouse even suspecting. I didn't suspect that my husband was mailing an old flame, until I found the emails between them back and forth. He spends very little time on the computer, I didn't suspect a thing!!

Hello all, newbie here and could do with some advice. Recently I found some emails that my husband had sent to an ex of his and an ex he was involved with 15 years back. So I'm wondering why the heck he would want to email her and after all this time. He didn't tell me about this email relationship that he has going with his ex and it's an email correspondance that has been going on for around four months and without my knowledge. He doesn't know that I've found these emails. I havn't said anything because I don't want him to know I'm snooping and because also there isn't anything in these emails to suggest that there is anything going on between my husband and his ex. They are just friendly back and forth emails, they do seem to be just friends. We've been married 14 years and have three kids. Married life is good, no complaints whatsoever and we are even due to go on holiday for Christmas, so things are good. I just don't understand why my husband would feel any need, to email and have a friendship with his ex? Any insight from anybody would be really helpful. Thanks in advance.