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Well sometimes when something really aren't good for you you've got to let it go. Maybe it really was the better thing for even the both of you to end this relationship?

You shouldn't let someone affect your confidence. Why give anyone the power?

Stop focusing on the betrayal, anger, hate etc. and start focusing on the positive things without him.

Do you talk to any of your friends and family about this. You need a source of support it really helps.

I think it's real hot and appealing for a guy to know martial arts. Especially so if he is an expert. It just makes a guy seem more tough, and like "aah he can protect me".

What are the reasons you guys even broked up in the first place? All that breaking up getting back together, doesn't seem like a real serious relationship to me. Weigh the pros and cons. Is it really better for the two of you to be a couple or just stay friends?

I think he probably expected you to be calling him back and well he probably never expected that you wouldn't be calling him and begging him to or at least questioning why the break up. I feel that you probably let him go easier than he expected. So I really think he's leaving you these messages cuz he wants you to let him know that you still have feelings for him to mend his slightly bruised ego I guess.

He does seem like kind of a jerk for acting differently when with his friends.

Well I hope you find your perfect woman the next time.

You've got to get out of your depressive moods. The mind really does have an affect on the body.

A few years ago I was in a very brief relationship with a guy that I was deeply deeply in love with. It was the type that pretty much ended before it even started, but nonetheless I was in love. We never even had any contact after that. So I really feel that if he calls you even once a month and is still a part of your life, then you've got it soo soo soo good already. Be grateful for that.

You say that he comes accross as not caring for you anymore. But I think deep down he probably does. He prob. doesn't want to give you mixed messages. If he's too caring you might take it the wrong way and think that he wants to be more with you.

Could the girls possibly be a bit turned off by your straight forwardness? I believe in honesty all the way, but have some tact also of course. Really it must be something about your personality that's drawing pretty much the same endings from every girl.

I think most girls like a guy that could take charge, but they wouldn't want one that be bordering controlling.

I don't feel there should be any length of time before you can become exclusive with someone. If they aren't afraid of showing you to their friends and calling you boyfriend, then I think they want to be exclusive with you.

Oh of course it's fate. I really don't believe there are any chance encounters with anyone.

It's always good to follow your gut feelings isn't it?

I read that soulmates aren't just limited to romance relations. Though she could be one. Seems like you guys have a lot in common. Well congratulations for finding the girl of your dreams.

When you talk to a hot girl and say if they don't like you they won't necessarily blow you off. Hot doesn't mean b$@chy. The chances of a less attractive girl blowing you off may even be higher.

Also I think a lot of girls might find it kind of attractive when a guy seems somewhat shy around them.

Just start off with going up to her and talk to her like you would to a friend. Don't flirt yet cuz you don't know if she's interested you. You could progress to there.

To overcome your fear, you've got to walk up and face what you fear. It's never as scary the 2nd time, the 3rd 4th time etc.

You're caring too much about making a good impression on others. Stop overly caring about what others might think of you. See higher of yourself, gain some self confidence and you'd overcome it.

I guess the letter writing would be a good idea. Tell her how you feel about her. Ask her to tell you exactly what made her break up with you, and tell her you'll try not to make those mistakes in the future.

You said she'd cried a few times. Could she be upset frustrated about something you don't know about.

Or like the other person said maybe she just decided that she's really not that into you.

Make your move she likes you. Yeah just ask her out to lunch, dinner where ever just take her out some place.

Don't expect anything out of her than a friend. She may want more in the future. She really just seems like the flirtatious type that don't want to be committed yet. For now just get involved with other things in your life. Continue flirting and dating other girls. Just don't make her your world. Maintain an emotional detachment to her. Otherwise you really may be setting up yourself for more disappointments. Do love her as a close friend though but nothing more.

Yeah she probably did want you to check her out. Say hi to her next time you see her, but no heavy flirting, cuz she really may have a boyfriend.

No it is not a chinese thing. It's just her. Some people really just aren't the type that needs that constant physical affection. But I think you should go tell her about your feelings again, but be gentle. Instead of having it always bugging you and risking breaking up over this.

Honestly I don't think most people at 14 have boy girl friends. So there's absolutely no need to be worried about that.

You know what instead of asking her out right away, why not try making small talks with her. That's a way to show you're interested and also to get some feedback whether she's even interested or ready to be in a relationship. Just let it flow from there. After talking with her more you'll naturally build up the nerves to eventually possibly ask her out.

Why would you even feel the need to let your parents know who or even what gender you're interested in?

Good luck

Well if you guys really love each other, and you feel it's worth your time then you make it work even though it's hard.

Maybe he likes you but he's actually got a girlfriend that he's just not mentioning?

148 lbs at 5'6" isn't that pretty slim already for a guy? If fruits aren't filling then drink up on lots and lots of water. Eat lots of veggies also, they're very low calories so you can fill up on that. Keep active by doing something that you like so you'll stick with it. Weight training's very good, more muscles less fat. Just keep busy with life that really helps in taking mind off food.

Yeah, you should get into mechanics. And stop calling yourself dumb that just makes you have low self esteem.

I think a lot of people hates life once in a while especially when things aren't going great. What do you mean by mixed signals? What mixed signals did he even sent you?

Oh lucky you! I hope you guys have a good vacation.

Feeling down on life really doesn't help anything it'll just make everything worse. Maybe you could get a book about how to cope with cancer to give to your friend. Please don't put so much weight on the remark that your counsellor made. I truly believe anything is possible in this life. A lot of people have achieved things that others never believed they could ever achieve but so what they achieved it anyway. For your last friend try getting in contact with her and ask her if there's anything you could help her with.

Yeah, she likes you. I mean come on who would really cuddle and talk about taking advantage of someone just to get free car rides. Not many I don't think.