littlelaxer

ok so ive been doing no contact with the ex for about a month and today would actually have been a month since i have last heard his voice. and let me tell ya i have been doing JUst Fine! Anyways i was working last night. And becasue of my strange schedual my work allows me to work once a month. I always work the first friday of the month. Well i was just doin my job and in comes the ex. With his roomate. DOESNT EVEN SAY HI. nothing. im like jeez what did i do. And its at the mall so its not like ur not allowed to talk to people. So he walks around the store of course close to me, but i was on regisiter, but i suppose making sure i saw him. and walks out and while passing the window my friend said he was justa looking my way. But i didnt look cause i didnt know they left. Last night i actually had like my first date since him and i broke up, so while out around 1:20 ish AM i see i have a missed call from 1:05am and its my ex. im like whoa! it didnt ring though i dont knwo what happened maybe he called and hung up real fast i dont know. So when i was going home i called him back and i asked if he had called and he was like "ummmmmmmm noooo i dont think so, maybe my phone did cause its in my pocket and maybe it actidently called u". Now im trying not to read into this but his phone used to do that back when we were dating cause i would be the last person he would call but he hasnt called me in weeks, so im thinking well did ur phone go into ur phonebook and search for my name and then dial and hang up real fast??? So i was like ohh ok to him. then he said i saw u at ur work today. and i sadi yea i dont know why u didnt say hi. He said well when i was away back home(he went home for 2 weeks) i called and textd u and u didnt f-ing respond so i was like whatever. I was like yeah ok. and i did respond once but he didnt say anyting (further information check out last threds of mine) and he was like well ill let u go alright bye. And i just hung up. i really dont know what his deal is. I heard from a friend that he said he was kinda talking to someone new and she has all the same qualities that i do but she can go out and party. So am i left to start no contact all over again???? or do i call him and try and talk things out. I really dont want to do that but i dont know what to do........can someone give me an idea about this whoel situation. Yes i want him back deep down but this is all so confusing..... thanks

i suppose im scared to bring it up, becuase i dont want to push him away. i kinda think that maybe with some time he will bring it up himself if not i guess ill figure out that he doesnt want to be with me after all. does anyone have any thoughts on the situation?

Thanks for the reply......i do want to talk to him, because if he in no way wants to try and get back together i wish i would just know and then i could move on. I dont wantt to ask him to talk becasuse i like to consider the ball in his court. He needs to decide what to do next, and i dont want to bring it up to seem like im still all caught up in the whole thing. Do you think its best to just let him make the next move?? He does know that i am not going to call him because when we first broke up i told him that i wasnt going to call him, if he wanted to talk he should call me. And ive stuck to that. It drives me nuts, because i have no idea what he is thinking, im sure lots of us have that question though!

hi im new on this site, but i think it is great how everyone helps everyone out. i just hope some can help me as well.......ill give u a short summary of what happened between my ex and i....... We dated for about a year and it was a good relationshp. Yes we had out arguments but they were like anyother normal relationship. then one day he said "i dont know what i want, and im not ready for a long term relationship." i was heart broken. And i know he didnt leave me for another girl. Today is actually a month we have been apart and i have not spoken to him since the 6th because i havent answer his call or textes, becuase i was tryin to do no contact. Well, hes back home now to visit his family for about two weeks (which is very far) and i figure that would be the best thing. being away from everything he could maybe start to think about things. About two days into him being away he texts me "so is this how its gonna be" i didnt reply till the next day cause i wanted to play cool...i said "no i just needed time thats all" and he says "ye ok" i was kinda mad how he wasnt nice about it and didnt even spell out the whole word "yeah". and i said "well u dont have to be mean about it" and i havnt heard from im since and that was about last monday. Im thinking that maybe me not talking to him is bothering him. Beucas i look at it this way, if he didnt care he wouldnt call or text. If he wasnt tryin to be mean he would of text back saying he didnt mean to come off mean. And by now he would of said something, atleast a hi. My friend and i think maybe hes tryin to get himself together, like hes confused. does anyone have any insite on this. I do miss him very much, ive tried tryin to talk to new people (cause my friends are forcin me to get back out there but i cant yet becaseu there is still so much hope for him. Can anyone give me their opinion on this?? Thank you very much