Hi I would like to join Kirsty in her feelings.
I have a very attractive b/friend. He has got a huge senso of humor. And above all we have this long distance relationship (3 years). And that is presicely the problem.
He stares at other women. Just to long. They see it as an invitation and respond to that. To name a few incidents. He stared at a group of woman who was camping alone. After a while the one came over asking in her sweet voice please open this for me!
That makes me furious. A girl even sent her address to him on a serviet.
We discussed this and I explained to him that he does things that makes me feeling jealous and according to him he does not even realise that he is doing it.
I am at the point to tell him that if he cannot change this, I would have to go on without him because to me this is not a way out.
Dr. Phil describes this as social commitment. Although my b/friend promise me that he loves me, this creates a problem. Unfortunately together with a view things that happened I now do not trust him completely. I would get this gut feeling (although I know that this is not something to go by) and then I would not be able to sleep. I keep imagining things that happened and then creates all this scenarios in my mind.
If he calls me and I ask him something and he doesn't answer immediately I would think he is cheating.
Then above all this he visited a strip joint a few times. I explained to him why this is not good for our relationship and although he agrees and promised never to go there again, I now do not trust that he is true.
I am very true to my b/friend and expect the same. But unfortunately this is not so simple.
So I understand why you feel this way. It drives me mad when he stares at other women. When I am not with, what does he do when they come over and start chatting. If he tells me nothing, why does he stares so much to get that reaction then???
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