Anyone out there read this book yet (it's written for gals, but i think guys get something out of it too)? It's a great slap into reality (and a fun read too). Seriously, what are we doing? Conspiring on how to get back the one we love? Debating about NC and limited NC and blah blah, just to get that ONE back. That one that has hurt us so deeply, rejected us, turned us away. And yes, there are many valid reasons. But....
But in the end, the bottom line is if we were as important to them as they are to us, we would still be together. Because we are WORTH it, and the risk of the loss of us would be too great. Yes? So really what is the bottom line? That "they are just not that into you", really is the bottom line.
And you know what else? That is their loss. Because you are wonderful, and worthwhile, and special. Believe that and embrace it. And smile because someone else will know that too one day. Perhaps your ex will realize this and perhaps they won't be too late. But don't wait. Move forward and embrace life and always always remind yourself that YOU ARE WORTH THE WHOLE BALL OF WAX MY FRIENDS! Do not short change yourselves.
It took me so long to get this straight because I like you have suffered great loss and have tried it all to work things out (space, no space. being friends, not being friends, etc.). I finally realized that nothing I do will change things. Nothing I do in regards to trying to get back the one I love. What DOES work is my work on myself, my integrity, and my esteem. Which I have regained. And it feels good. Do I still love him with all my heart? Do I want him back. Sure. Of course. But I can't make him want me back. Only he can realize or not, and only on his own (and yes patience is a virtue, but it works. seems like as soon as I started feeling good, he started nosing around). But I also love me, and if he's just not that into me, well later then. I think that at the end of it all, what is meant to be will be. Meanwhile, don't settle for less than you deserve because you deserve the WORLD. So go out and have some fun, and remember what an amazing person you are! The rest will fall into place...