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    Plans to settle down

    in Relationship Advice

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    Congrats on trying to take the next steps in buying property, however with the two of you still unmarried, it would be wise to possibly rent a little more until things possibly clear up between the differences in where you two wish to buy a property. It is a big expense and a big deal when buying a home for the first time, and it can take time, even years to find the right property. I would focus on the relationship more and keep looking at properties until maybe both of you can agree on something you both like. 

    Never would go back to her ex and she does.

    in Healing After Break Up or Divorce

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    3 years ago I dated a girl who decided to end are relationship over the phone, I look back now and im glad she did.

     

    When we were dating for the year and 1/2 she said how she would never go back to her ex(s); and when we broke up she never would consider talking to me ever again or getting back together.

     

    So shes been seeing her ex and starting a relationship with him, hes 5 hours away and the guy honest to god is really just scum; I mean she used to say how he abused her and used her. And first hand account of knowing meeting him. Etc etc.. Her friends say shes miserable in her life right now...

     

    And now shes been focusing all her energies into a relationship w/ her ex!!

     

    Im rather glad that fate took me away from this person and lessons I have learned from this, it pains me to know this was a person I cared for so much.

     

    Things are differnt now, and she always will have a little piece of my heart and I guess when I found out this information it tore me apart just a little and wish I could tell her "HEY YOUR MAKING A MISTAKE, MOVE ON". I have moved on though successfully and she is still living the same life, doing the same things and going back into her past.

     

    It took a while but ive come out ahead in the long run w/ my job in the government, my travel and experiences. Self satisfaction is bittersweet.

    Father has begun throwing things

    in Abuse and Violence

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    I think until they finally have call you back on your job selection, you'll need to consider being out of the house as much as possible. The last thing that needs to happen (as I'm sure you realize anyhow) is for some injury by your father's abusive behavior to set you back in this upcoming job.

     

    As DarkBlue mentioned hopefully everything will fall into place soon and you're able to move on with life without your father's behavior.

     

    True I take your advice on getting out of the house.. I love to excercise but its sooooo COLD... that it makes it torture then fun. Being with friends are gone during the holidays as well as my cousins with the other side of there family.

     

    Ha im just screwed at this moment. But thank you for the advice.

    Father has begun throwing things

    in Abuse and Violence

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    When will they get back to you?

     

    Hopefully, it will be soon. And until then, the only thing you can do is try and stay out of his way.

     

    They said the 27th and beyond, my recruiter said less then a month from your appointment date can they start pull jobs, im guessing after 2006 due to pay increase reasons so im filed as a 2006 cadet and not 2005/2006.

     

    I am trying to stay out of his way darkblue as much as I can, I sit silently away in my closed room, this is bad news I dont understand why this upsurge in anger is coming from. If I was pissing him off id say yea I was doing this or doing that; but this is blindly picking fights with me for no reason. Or the simplist infraction is like a death sentence. Alike yesterday was a inncident my towel was not perfectly flush with the others, that cost me about 10 minutes of him yelling how lazy I am!! AHHH that is the opposite of what I am.

     

    Ive sold everything off cept my laptop and my clothing so im just waiting to go with one duffell bag to my cousins for storage and then boot.

     

    Can you believe anyone so excited about bootcamp being better then being with his own father. Hes also exclaimed he rather not watch his * * * * * son graduate from bootcamp since its not the toughest branch for real men. Ughhh... Ok! Im glad your not going!

     

    When will he learn. I dont know... But he will learn the hard way in the end when he finds himself alone without family or friends...

    Bitter parents arising but now leaving..

    in Personal Growth

    Posted

    Christmas morning im sitting silent in the living room and father comes out and yells at me to get my **** head out of the way to turn on the TV.

     

    Wow not even Merry Christmas let alone I havent seen him in a day. He starts fights now for no reason and says when the Air Force gonna take you.

     

    Two days ago he was yelling at his own Dad for not caring for him when he was a teen. I found this odd in his behavior. I think my fathers going thru some regression during the holiday here! Somethings wrong, and I dont want to be around this!

     

    Im glad to be leaving, im almost wishing the lord to move thru this holiday quickly as the military shuts down during this time and comes back after Dec 27th but doesnt full swing until Jan 3rd.

     

    To my point in personal growth

     

    What I have learned now is to be my own decision maker and path taker in this life, its my turn to call my own shots and develop a successful future and to not follow in my fathers footsteps for his journey failed due to the fact of just giving up. I am never have been a quiter and am yet to ever start, today on Xmas he help re-enforced this idea x10 fold

     

    P.S.

    Im just praying to god that call will come through with my job selection and get me into boot camp ASAP

    Letting someone know how i feel

    in Relationship Advice

    Posted

    Yea my ex and me were best friends for a long time and i thought thats how it always was gonna be not that I would have started a relationship with her because i had no idea she was having the hots for me till she made a move..

     

    sometimes were stupid like this for god knows what reason and it takes a nudge or hint to get ous clued in.

     

    Or in her case timing the moment my friend tackled me to the floor then she dog piles on my best friend where she then lands a kiss on me...

    what do i have to offer her?

    in Dating Advice

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    yea, but I feel like she feels this way because she doesn't really know the real me. I haven't really been able to let that shine through enough.

     

    Sometimes you wont ever get this chance, maybe its for the better I mean who knows in her mind shes probebly like god this guys a creep in another way shes like hmm hes nice but im too busy or maybe shes got the hots for you and runs away at first sign.

     

    Shes not scared of you I can say that much if she gave you her number, but dont take it to heart there not just one girl out there in this world if she doesnt take a liking too ya,

    what do i have to offer her?

    in Dating Advice

    Posted

    Yeaaa stop trying to figure what you can offer her and if shes not interested whatever, she knows you like her sooooo just let it be that for now, who knows maybe she might come on too you, sometimes the idea just has to sink in or maybe she really just not interested at all...

     

    Best thing for you is you tried and now you know what she feels now.. 0X

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