BusyGirl

Being a girl, I'd say you approach 1 since you've said you really like her and don't know what to think of 2. Approach her and talk to her, just casual conversation. It seems to me that 1 might like you. When you do make your move and ask her out, IF she says no, then do NOT ask 2 out by any means. If you ask 1 and she says no, there's a chance that maybe later when she gets to know you more she will say yes. But if she says no and you go and ask her friend- your chances of even getting to know 1 will be pretty much lost! Hope this helps a bit.

Hi AB38, Thank you for your encouragement! I think you're right. I've decided to just take things as they come and not worry too much about it. We'll see what comes of that. BusyGirl

The only problem with water entering your vagina is that if the shower head stream is strong, then it acts sort of like a douche and it "cleans" out your vagina. It can be a problem because if you do it too often it can upset the natural balance inside your vagina and can lead to dryness or yeast infections. You can always use your fingers, one or two depending on how comfortable you are. When you choose objects to insert in your vagina make sure they're clean and that they don't have rough edges, and no parts that could come off inside you. I'd stay away from anything glass, especially if it's hollow as it could break! Also wait until you're aroused enough that you're well lubricated before putting anything in your vagina. Have fun!

Hi Shy_Guy, Thank you for replying. You are right in that I did have that question in my mind eventhough I didn't ask it. Sometimes it seems awkward to not have to worry about the things that have occupied so much of my time for so long! I agree with you, and I do want to take things step by step. It's not so much my embarrassment at having to ask the questions, it's more my concern about giving someone the "wrong" message. I have a close male friend. I've been cautious about asking him things because I got the feeling that he thought I wanted these things with him. Sure enough, one night (about 2 weeks ago) we were talking about some things and he tried to kiss me and put his hand on my breasts. I gently told him that I didn't feel like I could get involved with him like that right now. He was very mad at me and told me I was just teasing him by asking him all those things and making him aroused. We argued about it because I had told him that I was curious about things and we had already discussed my intentions when talking about sexual things. He was upset and told me that he thought that maybe I would want to try these things with him. Then he said something that hurt me very much-- he said that he didn't have to wait around for me to grow up and want a man to f.... and that he could get it somewhere else whenever he wanted. I was very angry and told him to leave, and if that's what he thought, he was no friend of mine. After he left, I cried it seems like all night and I was very disappointed in myself for thinking he was a friend I could trust, I thought he understood but apparently not. And that night I really hated him, because for the first time since I was 14, he made me feel ashamed of my inexperience. He left me various messages apologizing to me, telling me he was being an impatient idiot and that of course he understood, and he wanted to be someone I could come to for help/questions, etc. I don't know, I'm still mad at him (and mad at myself to some extent I guess). Do you think there is any way that I can talk about sex, etc. with an experienced person without them thinking that it'll lead to something else? Maybe I'm going about it the wrong way? Thank you, BusyGirl

Thank you.