Holly

Santa - It's all very well saying that kinda thing once it's happened, but right now Charmed is obviously very confused and very uncertain about, not only her future, but the future of her two toddlers, plus that of her unborn child! It takes two people to create life.... and whilst both should take some responsibilty towards preventing pregnancy, I do agree that ultimately, it is more often than not the female who ends up 'holding the baby'! It's a sad fact of life, when pregnancy occurs in the teen years, very rarely do teenage parents stay together in the long term! I just hope Charmed seeks the help that she really needs and finds somebody to give her sound advice whilst she's in the 'oh my God, what am I gonna do' stage..... somebody that won't pressure her one way, or the other.... and somebody that will accept whatever decision she makes for her own future! Charmed - right now you must be feeling really upset and confused, I wish I had the answers for you, but unfortunately I haven't! You've been on my mind since I wrote my first reply.... PLEASE let us know how you are! ((((hugs)))) Love, Holly..... x

Lonny - You've already had two bad experiences with women,... don't make this one your third, she ain't worth it! Maybe you've discussed the issues of these other women with your present girlfriend.... and knowing that she's the first one to come along in seven years has gone to her pretty little head a bit too much! She's doing much worse than making you jealous, she's confusing you and won't stop until your self esteem is at 'zilch'.... she has NO respect for you, kissing other guys and grabbing their crotches is hardly the kind of behavior of any self respecting woman! LET HER GO... GET RID OF HER!! You sound like a decent kinda guy,... you don't deserve for this woman to walk all over you. You deserve the love and caring of a good woman,.... pick yourself up, dust yourself down... and she'll be along when you least expect it! axe03 We're NOT all like that!!

Charmed - my heart really goes out to you! I really don't know what to suggest? With two children already, I don't know what you plan on doing with your unborn child, do you want to keep it? Is adoption an option? It really would be a great burden on you to raise 3 children at your age, especially if you don't have any support from the fathers' of these babies.... and that of your family! I'm not surprised your mum is pissed off with you, I guess she thought that with two small children already, you wouldn't find yourself pregnant again so soon! She's worried... and that's normal! You never said how many weeks pregnant you were, so it's difficult to make any suggestions at this stage, but if you are considering a termination, for the sake of your sanity and not least, your toddlers,.... then I would suggest that you see somebody soon about this (assuming that your pregnancy isn't too far advanced). Having said this, terminating a life can't be an easy decision to make, but it is an option. What about your family, do they live close by? Would they be willing to support you, should you decide to keep the baby? Where did the father of your toddlers go to? Is he still around? Does he help with the children? Where's the father of your unborn child gone to? Is he aware that you're pregnant? Would he be willing to support his child? There's so many questions.... and they all need answers,... only by going through it all bit by bit, can you decide what you want to do! Please, stay positive and focussed, no matter what you choose to do,... it's your choice.... do what's best for yourself! Thinking about you, Holly