rlemon

One month? You should be the happiest guy in the world. What are you waiting for. Walk out!

Jen23, Thank you for your words. It's exactly what i'm thinking. I know i should be thinking about moving over and forget about getting back together. But it's damn hard to do it. Even my friends are away (it's my fault that during college i only made friends with guys from elsewhere). All the support i get is from my parents and this site. It really helps seeing other people go through the same experiences. I only hope the day will come when i can sleep at night and think of going out with other girls.

I have the same problem, Langeveldt She only broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I started no contact, but then she called me a few days later, saying she is there for me and she doesn't want me to think she is cruel and cinical, because she is hurting too... We went out two nights ago and i was acting like her best friend, although it was incredibly hard for me. Then, yesterday she didn't even call me (i must add i had been away this week and she called me twice a day). I'm starting to think she was just feeling lonely the past few days because all her new friends were away. And when she got someone to hang out with, she forgot i was there. Anyway, it's very hard for me to just be her best friend. We are friends for a reason, we have a history together, we love each other (or used to, anyway), it doesn't seem right for me to be the guy she "likes and apreciates most".

I really can't describe what i'm feeling right now. So, this week, we talked on the phone twice a day, I even needed to use my brother's phone as i had forgotten my batery charger home, because she wanted to speak to me so much. Then, on Friday, when i got back, i met her. We talked just like old friends, i never let show all the pain i'm going through. She told me all the stuff, that i'm special, she'll always care for me... But then on Saturday she didn't even call me. Now it's Sunday morning and i didn't get much sleep. I'm a mess. So what should i do to get over her? Why did she call me every day last week? Could it be she saw i was "ok" and relaxed, thinking there's no need to speak to me? Will no contact work? I'm afraid i might never hear from her again if i tell her to stop contact. I really enjoy being with her. But when i get home i feel lonelier than ever. Any advice guys? You've been really helpful and i must thank you for your posts.

My girlfriend and i broke up 2 weeks ago after a 7 year relationship. It's more like she dumped me while i was on my knees crying and all that s***. I decided to stop calling her and she agreed. I went away from my town for Easter, figured it would do me good just to leave all this mess for a few days. Then, after 3 days, on Easter day, she calls me just to give the best wishes. Then she calls me again that same day. And the days after. We talk and talk every day, just like best friends, she tells me she was wrong to stop contact, we mean a lot to each other, she's my best friend blabla. Now i'm back in town she wants to meet me tonight. i can't tell you how my hopes went up this week when she initiated contact. i wasn't planning on calling her for at least 2 weeks. She's got some new male friend, not her boyfriend from what she tells me, she just gets along better with guys than girls. Any advice from anybody? What's in her mind? Doesn't she realise that if she's not interested in starting over she's really hurting me?