Who's right for me?

I am an out gay man in my early 20's and am still very new at this. I am - well, I don't want to say desperate, but I really need help with who I should look for in a long-term relationship. I haven't dated in a year and a half, and when I did, I was completely clueless as to what I was doing, or what I even wanted.

I have so many facets to who I am, no one really understands me as a person. I can be shy at times, introvert, silly and strong-hearted too. I am loyal, have set goals for myself, but sometimes I feel I am too dependent on people, whether it's friends or family. Personally, I've tried looking in the typical places(bar/club scene, library, etc.), but I don't know if I'm looking in the right places, or for the right people for that matter. I need someone who is open enough to understand who I am and what I've been through, and also willing to help me know what I want fully out of life. I like learning new things everyday, and I think someone else in my life can help me learn even more. I also would like to share with someone what it has been like for me since my journey of coming out (I've only been out for 3 and a half yrs.), as well as being receptive to their story. I also feel another person can help me dig deeper into finding inner peace with myself.

Although I know this is no dating website, I would really like to read people's feeback based on what I've just posted and it would help me get a better understanding of using the right approach to the dating scene, with the right person for me, and also at the right time in the right place. Nothing may be perfect, but I want to be brave enough to take a pretty accurate risk.

If anything what I have learned in life so far, it could be a total surprise to you what type of guy for whatever reason could be a right fit for you, and that you could hopefully grow and change with. I would keep an open mind. Try not to overthink it too much, and try not to put yourself into a smaller and smaller box, but on the other hand don't compromise either if you just dont feel that connection.

If anything what I have learned in life so far, it could be a total surprise to you what type of guy for whatever reason could be a right fit for you, and that you could hopefully grow and change with. I would keep an open mind. Try not to overthink it too much, and try not to put yourself into a smaller and smaller box, but on the other hand don't compromise either if you just dont feel that connection.

That's what I think my problem was before. I limited myself to what I thought I should go for based on the previous negative vibes/ feedback given by society as a whole. I try not to go by those standards anymore, but now it's hard to know what's TRULY out there if I've been restricted from it for so long.

I admire those people who were able to accept themselves that they are gay. I'm already 26 years old. Some people notice I guess but most people not. I'm gay, but I consider myself bisexual as I have girlfriend right now. I love her but I can't help myself to be attracted by guys. I still resist as I want to have a family of my own with her, but everytime I feel lust with a guy even just for watching porn, I am feeling so guilty and sorry as I feel like I am cheating on her. She knows that I am like this. I love her but I'm torn between questioning myself as if can i be a good husband for her or leave her now because she deserves someone better than me.