engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 I m moving to a different state i fell in love with....would u move somewhere where u do not have family but u allways dreamed about living in that place ? I m a little scared...but if i do not i feell like i m trapped and i do not want to feel that way.I m moving next year. Link to comment
Seymore Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 I wouldn't leave my family, but if I didn't have one or wasn't close to them, I'd like to live somewhere in the great wide open, like Oklahoma, out in the country. Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Well,i do not have family either over here...but been living here about 12 years,love moving close to the ocean Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Probably Puerto Rico or Florida Link to comment
soulfire_34 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 i am trying to move myself. i care for someone very much accross the country and i'm trying to get the courage to make the leap. the only family i have is here and she is the only one i really know there. Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Soulfire34...i have a questino ...well an advice...people think i m crazy or obsessed....is itrue that some people cannot handle long distance relationship? my ex ended things because of the distance,but now even if we do not get back together...i m moving there because i do love that city... Link to comment
soulfire_34 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 i don't think a lot of people can handle long distance relationships. I'm not one for them myself. I know my ex accross the country feels that way as well. She wanted me to move there long ago and i didn't do it. Now i have a second chance and i feel like i am going to blow it again. I recently got out of a 4yr relationship with a girl who destroyed me financially, emotionally and physically so i feel weak and have no confidence for anything like moving that far away Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Y would have moved long a go...i love that place.Me and him are no longer a couple because he did not want me to move there long time a go,I think he just did not want the commitment ...he allways said he will move down closer but he never did...even if we do not getback together...i have fond memories there and yea,we are still freinds,he likes me sexually still ,but ....we frends only,that all he wants now. However i fell in love with the world he lives in...hope i ll have a job lined up Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 well my ex is just weird,i do not know why guys that love heavy metal music and goth style are so weird. Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Soulfire3 ,if u love the girl ,why u cannot move ? Or why isn she moving to your city ? What distance is between ya ? Link to comment
Allipie Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 I've done this twice, and I highly suggest proceeding with caution. Visiting a place and actually living there are completely different...and the grass is not always greener on the other side.I know of people who have moved to Florida because they loved it when they visited, but found that it wasn't so great after they moved there. ( I mean, really...Florida IS a sh*t hole). Think about your decision and make sure you are moving for the RIGHT reasons. good luck Link to comment
soulfire_34 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 i guess fear and family has kept me from not moving. Back in the day i couldnt make up my mind because people were telling me im crazy for wanting to move that far, family didnt want me to go. now it seems like the same is happening. She lived here for about 6months long ago, didnt like it and moved back home. That is why she doesnt want to move back here. Plus all her family is there. There is about 3,300 miles between us. Also i have a pretty good job where i am, might suck to lose it. But that doesnt matter. as for your situ, sounds like the guy is no good. but i could be wrong. you should find someone that cares for you other than just sex. Looks like you would have no problem finding a guy just by looking at your picture. Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 U right,between us were only 1700 miles,and spent money on few trips over there,he is finishing college this year,been off contact few month and we are kind of friends,but i just fell in love with the island where he lives,me too i have a good job here,but sometimes u got to take chances.So what part of world is she in and where are you ?3300,i hope ya working it out..what state is she in ?... Link to comment
soulfire_34 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 right, sometimes you do have to take chances. guess i am to "safe" of a guy now, stuck in a "comfort" zone and not really living life. I'm in Florida and she is in Washington state. where are you and where is he? Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 Tennesse and he is in Puerto Rico,but he used to live in Jacksonville,fl Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 And the thing i love the place he is in Link to comment
Shnoodle Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 I know I, and many others have voiced that this situation is extraordinarly unhealthy. "Creepy and stalker-ish" is more my opinion, but it's not very supportive of me to say so. You, I, and anyone else who has read through your threads know that you are not going there because you like the city, you think it will make a man love you. You will do what you want, so I don't see why you even ask for advice. I say.. do it. Go stalk that ex! Just don't be surprised if it blows up in your face. Link to comment
I_Speak_Jive Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 This is a VERY bad idea, Roxana. Please look at all your threads here. You just got married, decided to get a divorce and had a meltdown over your ex who clearly does not want you in the space of -- what, a month? Two? You need to slow down. I honestly don't think that moving accross state lines to be closer to a guy who has gone out of his way to show you how utterly uninterested he is in you as a romantic partner is a very good idea. Here are a few facts that you may want to at the very least *think about* while planning this move: - Puerto Rico currently has a 44.8 percent poverty rate, three times higher than the "mainland" United States. - Average per capita income is less than USD 10.000 per year. - Unemployment now stands at 16.6 percent, nearly double than the US average. - 60 percent of female-headed households in Puerto Rico now fall below the poverty thresholds. This are a few of the MANY facts that a person must absolutely consider in their decision making process when it comes to relocating there, but you seem entirely focused on: - The beaches are pretty - My ex lives there. I don't know. I just... don't know. I think, maybe taking care of your marriage (?) or divorce (!) and de-obsessing yourself from an ex who is clearly kryptonite for your self-esteem should be THE main priorities for you right now. Or, you know, move to Puerto Rico and see how it goes. Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 I do think about the poverty and the fact that i would not live without a job...and yes i would like to also work and go to school.Yes i did hear about the unemployment rate. Link to comment
engraved2008 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Share Posted September 1, 2010 I understand u I speak Alive....and about poverty.Whats wrong if yyou move in a different state ? And i do love the culture and THE PEOPLE.i DID THIS BEFORE I MET MY EX Link to comment
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