Save yourself a TON of heartache in the future and break things off with him. I know you don't want to hear that, but I've been there, done that before... your boyfriend obviously already has an alcohol problem, and if he isn't an alcoholic already, he's well on the way.
Ask yourself:
1. Are you HAPPY?
2. Is your happiness important to HIM?
3. Are you a priority in his life?
4. Do you trust him?
5. Are you conversations MOSTLY about him, about his problems, about his drinking?
6. Does he prefer to go out to the bars or to drink over spending time with you?
If you can honestly answer "yes" to the first 4 questions and "no" to the last 2, then keep working forward with the relationship... but if you are answering "no" to the first 4 questions and "yes" to the last 2... RUN, RUN RUN RUN RUN
When I was 19, I got involved with a 24 year old artist who drank just about every single night. Within a few months, I found I was doing all the "work" to make the relationship work, he wasn't taking me out unless it was drinking, we were NEVER doing ANYTHING that I wanted to do, and although we were having sex, we didn't have any "intimacy" - hugging, kissing, cuddling. When I started complaining, he said things like hey, this is the way I am, take it or leave it, if you love me like you say you do then you will accept me the way I am... etc. etc. etc.
Oh, yea, he slept with my friends, too.
Love does mean accepting a person... however, love does NOT mean accepting BAD BEHAVIOR. And he was BAD BEHAVIOR 95% of the time. His bad behavior got worse - resulting in one night after my complaining him hitting me accross the face with a beer bottle, 20 years later I still have a 1/2" scar on my nose from that.
You are only 17. There are many, many, many wonderful men out there who will HONOR you, who will choose YOU over drinking, and who will respect what YOU want in a relationship.
I hope this helps... I wish you the best of luck!
