Cheerful Whistling

Hey hockeyboy, I can really relate - almost exactly the same thing happened to me a few years ago now. I found I really treasured the memories of the house, especially now its been done up and looks quite different. And I still feel weird if I drive past it, but it also has the most special place in my memories. So I hope the house keeps that special spot in your heart to be a treasured memory. Maybe it would have been nicer than if you stayed there forever and the house grew old with you, but in a funny way maybe you will remember it and love it more this way. And as you get older, it will have that really nice nostalgic glow... "remember when we were playing in the lounge in the old house...etc." And most important of all - home will always be where you make it.

Thanks for your reply DN. To be entirely honest - I am doing all of those things already! I have been so proactive about doing all that stuff. In my last job interview I got pipped at the post by another candidate who had work experience specifically in that environment. I was the second ranked candidate, which was great. But at the end of the day, still no job. I guess the reason I am posting is because I feel discouraged and I get down. Everyone I know is off working and being successful. I am doing all the right things, but I really hate the job of "job-hunting". I don't get any reward or satisfaction from it, and I feel like I am always struggling to keep my mood positive. Everything I read, and everyone I speak to says "be positive, be positive". I just find its easier said than done. I know my confidence and self-esteem seem to be getting worse and worse, and that doesn't help either. But I don't know how to boost my own confidence in this situation. Edit: just read your second reply, thats a good suggestion. The last interview was through a recruiter, so I didn't have direct access to the actual company. But I'll certainly bear it in mind next time.

hi toggle, Something you could ask your doc about is certain vitamins - I do triathlons, and I know a lot of people who find magnesium or quinine useful to reduce cramps. I would double check this with your doc to make sure it suits you - but could be worth a try. I know its frustrating if your friends and relatives don't get it - but sometimes different people just have slightly different requirements. Good luck with it, and happy swimming. website for your reference: link removed

So I'm job hunting. I've been job hunting since the start of the year. And I am utterly sick of it. I've been trying to do all the constructive things, i've even got myself a life coach - which has helped me to do all the things I procrastinate - like making phone calls and networking. But I keep getting down about it, and then I get really annoyed at myself. I have this messy kinda background, and I know what I wanna do (i've even done my 5 year plan haha) - and it involves a slightly lateral career move (basically trying to get from systems training into learning & development - throw in a mixed bag background of psychology and research...). And most of the time I can convince myself to keep aiming for what I want to do, and not just cop-out and take any old crap job. I want to be this motivated, cheerful enthusiastic person - but then I get so down about the process. Its inherently unsatisfying, my confidence has plummeted - I start thinking really negatively "don't bother applying for that, you won't get it" - even though I don't feel down. And when I am down, I get annoyed that I am down... spiral spiral spiral. And then I sit here thinking - really what is the point of it all. Will this career mean enough to me? Am I doing the right thing? I don't know anymore. I also play this computer game online with my husband - and now they have just made this change (today) to the game. And my hubby is morally opposed to this change - so he is thinking of quitting it (and he is really sad about that too). And it just feels like i have no job, and now one of my leisure time activities is going too. And all our friends are moving and working overseas... the whinge could go on! I guess I just feel like I keep tripping over.. getting discouraged, then wearily hauling myself back up again. I just wish I didn't have to. I was in tears last night.. managed to talk myself out of it this afternoon - which lasted about 4 hours and then I was down again. I feel like I am a burden on him, getting mopey and teary. So then I just keep it inside. I talk to a couple of friends about it. And my life coach. But I see her and I'm fine - all happy & motivated. Its later that I crumble. I just want to find my old cheerful self again- you know, the person who whistles. A job (or lack thereof) shouldn't define myself - but I don't know how to stop letting it get to me. I feel like I don't see anyone else out there fighting with this kinda stuff. sadly, Silent-Whistler.