I've been working at a job I really enjoy for about seven months now. It's a great job-nice benefits, decent pay, and I enjoy the work I do.
When I first started, I bonded with the other two people who started with me, a girl my age and a guy a little older. The three of us became a trio that stuck together-had lunch, chatted often, and I generally like them.
However, about two months ago I noticed that the girl was getting snottier and snottier with me. I just seemed to always be annoying or frustrated her. One particular lunch, I suggested that we should go out for drinks sometime. She half snapped/half joked," Only if you promise not to argue with me in public." (Apparently she feels I'm very argumentative?...) I was flabbergasted into silence, and went back to my food, and she said," See, you're much better like this." "Not talking?" "Exactly."
Then, the next day, she and the guy went down to lunch earlier without me... didn't stop by to ask if I'd like to go or let me know they felt like eating early, which we always did. When I went down to eat myself, they completely ignored me.
I figured this was a hint that I'd finally just annoyed her so far, so I stopped going down to lunch with them all together and just ate at my desk. The only interaction we had after was her asking if I was permanently eating lunch, and me responding yeah, I liked to use the time to check my email and so far.
I thought that was that. I haven't spoken with her since, but neither have I ignored her. I very much just keep to myself, because I thought the best way to handle someone who doesn't like you is to stay out of their way and minimize their expose to you. I haven't discussed the situation with anyone, as I didn't feel there was a need-our personalities just clashed, it happens, we'll just be professionally polite.
Well, it turns out she's been * * * * * ing about me all around our department, especially to the group of people she now sits with at lunch!
Why?? Why is she doing this? I haven't done a thing to her. How could I possibly be pissing her off when all I do is sit at my desk and work? I have practically no friends there as it is. So why does she feel the need to complain about me? What can I possibly do to make it stop?