why does my husband lie

[toosweet38]

i do all i can in my marriage but my husband feels he has to lie about work and money. i cant talk to him without him getting angry.

ive got to point im scared to leave him cause of the angry fits . i lived like this once before and i dont want to again

how do i change all this?

[Braidy Jones]

You must speak to him and tell him how you feel and tell him that if things dont change and he if he doesnt stop lieing you gonna leave, as you can live ad have a realtionship like that.

 

Hope all goes well

[Aura Seeker]

People who tend to lie for no reason grew up in a home where the child was in fear a lot. The lying and covering up to stay out of trouble moves right on in to adult hood.

 

If that sounds familiar, start with the root of things and see if he is willing to look at it. If not, there is nothing you can do. You can only present the issue, you can not make him change.

 

If he doesn't really understand why he does lie, nothing will change unless he addresses issues.

 

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[SunnyScott]

I don't kow what's going on through his mind, but some people are not good with verbalizing their feelings, but it doesn't mean that lying is okay...

 

First of all, when confronting him with the issue, maybe, even as mad as you feel, try to conceal it and try to be positive. Perhaps, you'll get a different reaction.

 

If he's not opening up, then try to talk to his buddy or else mom (but, I don't know if you wanna go there).

 

As a last resort, you might want to try a session in marriage counseling.